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Trust and Forgiveness in Self-Friendship


ARK:

Some thoughts on trust and Friendship…

Originally posted on Chapter TK:

Since I began this experience of exploring my old poetry, I’ve realized the shorter poems resonate more. There’s something about the simplicity of words that is powerful. Today’s poem amounts to all of five lines and I think it’s one of my best. It has to do with friendship of yourself.

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The one you cannot have…


Recently I was suffering with Insomnia and while I was bugging my friend Kishore’s head he suggested me a book. And that was “The one you cannot have by Preeti Shenoy”

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I had stopped reading Indian Literature long back since I felt many a stories are monotonous with the same story line “Boy meets girl irrespective of any place they fall in love, then they romance… they end up on a secret escapade and finally some bad thing emerges which either separates them forever or unites them”

Grrrrr… but the Book The One you cannot have  was not like these genre of books. Instead the backdrop of the story as my friend said was very appealing. I quickly said ok please get me the book and yo… next day I borrowed it from my him.

I started reading the book and within the first 3 chapters I felt its pretty boring as the monotonous longing for a girl and her haunting memories were being explained inch by inch draining my patience. But before I could put it down I just thought why not read the first ten at one stretch and then judge the book by its content. Eventhough the first 3 chapters were boring… as I started engrossing myself to the rest of the pages there was a sudden twist in the plot…

I felt each character was talking to me directly…. Each character was directly related to me in an indirect way. The pain, the flashbacks of each character just immersed me more and more into the book. Basically it’s a very simple plot which I have seen coming true in many lives I have encountered in my life.

Boy and Girl fall in love in their college days and decide to get married….. but fate turns its aggressive face towards the couple and separates them for some time… The girl gets married and moves on with her life while the boy stays right there contemplating each and every free time of his life in the memories of the gone girl… Just when everything seems to fall in place and the guy decides to move on with a new girl in his life he is haunted by the gone girl he loved so much again. The 2 meet each other in their real lives face to face and then the fate presents them with a second chance… But the million dollar question is will the 2 accept the second chance or move on with the current situation as you know that you cannot have some people in life even if you want to….

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I don’t want to give spoiler alert for the story because I would recommend each and every person to read this novel…who has seen atleast one of the above lines in his/her life…. The novel is slightly different from the typical Indian Romance genre…

It throws light on true love, crush, marriage, relationships, trust, loyalty, friendship, post marital affairs, acceptance and resilience towards turbulent times in one’s marital life etc..

It teaches about some basic values in life like the below

  1. Sometimes life provides us chances to set our lives the way we want but very often we fail to take them into notice and bump into wrong choices. Once wrong choices are made instead of regretting it we should learn from those mistakes and accept it and move on.
  2. First love is always for keeps. There is no substitute for it but that doesn’t mean that all love stories need a happy ending.
  3. Everyone should be given a second chance in life. No matter what mistake they have committed in the past… if the person has a realization of the mistake then there is no harm in giving him a second chance. That doesn’t mean you forgive easily… give some time for yourselves… let things settle down and then you can see what’s actually lying there deep down the abyss of one’s heart
  4. Marriages are not made in heaven nor all marriages are “happily married” prototypes. Things need not be the same inside as much as they are being portrayed outside. The only thing that keeps any marriage alive is the need to adjust and compromise when needed and honest and loyal companionship towards each other.
  5. When your past haunts you… instead of turning on the FLIGHT mode… why not try to FIGHT back against it. Go and face your past even if its ugly. It relieves you of so much of burden and guilt that as I am writing this I am realizing how much I have been building guilt for many things in my life.
  6. Its not sex or the material comforts that keeps the fragile system of Marriages alive. Its takes great investment of time and honest friendship from both the partners in order to keep the fire of marriage alive for years together.
  7. You shall never be in peace with yourself if you have not made peace with the inner turmoils of your heart. If something is bothering you… don’t hesitate to share it infront of a confidante and work out on it instead of grieving over it and multiplying the agony in your life.

This is what I have learnt from this beautiful book by Preeti Shenoy. I sure have become a fan of hers after reading this cute short novella of hers… If you guys have already read this book or if you ever feel like sharing your experiences on this book you are most welcome. This blog post comments section is always open for your opinions on the same…

Thanks Kishore for giving me the right book at right point of my life.

Thanks to you Reader for giving this blog post your precious time…

Good luck with your life….

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Writer’s Block Party


Writer’s Block Party.

Easier said than done said my friend when i asked her to blog. She had very beautiful skills in writing poetry and also had idea on almost all the interesting topics on this planet. But whenever i asked her to write she always used to refuse and say “Easier said than done”

Over the years when i started blogging seriously here at WordPress.com i understood the pain of maintaining a regular blog writing habit. Its sometimes so difficult to write that here are some of the common reasons i give to myself

  • No topics to write something interesting
  • Who will read this article
  • Office work just has drained me
  • Work and Hobby can never co-exist etc etc

But whenever i see some talented people like Smriti, Belle Jar, Kagga Rasadhare , Karuna who spend their time religiously for Blogging i feel like I am just amongst 1000 Lazy people who are sitting there and making excuses to write.

Today in twitter i asked the same question…

What has stopped us from writing regularly??

Here are the responses.

Isn’t it so interesting to know many of us inspite of being so talented still are bound to many blocks which don’t allow us to be better writers in future.

Is there anyone else who is feeling the same here??

If so please share your opinions here….

Slice of Cake n Flip Flops


For today’s @postaday prompt, make sure your post features a slice of cake, a pair of flip-flops, and a wise person: http://t.co/ksp2a5ctgk

What sort of a guy you want in your life asked me my friend one day eating a slice of cake in nearby bakery.

I went on with a list of haves and have nots until she said summarise it…
It was then i really got confused. Not because i did not have a list but because i really do not know what exactly i want from a guy.

Then i asked her… What’s her choice of a man in her life. Yo… She answered he must be rich enough to make her roam everywhere with his car and must treat her at good restaurants…

He must never crib over her high level parties nor should object her from purchasing expensive dresses.

He must be able to buy her a house in the hustle and bustle of Bangalore’s ever growing line of row houses and must be able to afford all her luxuries. Plus the most important of all he must take good care of her.
I got confused what is TAKING GOOD CARE mean when a guy is almost sacrificing 3/4th of his life paying for her never ending bills.
I did not argue much… I basically respect everyone’s point of view. but my friend insisted me a lot to speak…and when i was blank she said “Lets have a questionnaire round… Lemme ask u few questions you just tell me what you feel”
She went on…
What’s the first thing that you like in a guy?
I replied “Simplicity
What’s the one thing that you would like him to buy for you on a vacation?
A pair of good flip flops
What’s the one thing that you always admire in a guy?

Good sense of humour and wise and practical words from him

What’s the one thing that you expect him to do on a weekend?
A long walk down the nearby neighbourhood and he smoking a cigarette.
Hearing this she immediately qualified me under mentally retarded category and said “God please give her some brains

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You’re Gonna Rise Again


ARK:

Don’t worry..You are gonna rise again

Originally posted on Broken Light: A Photography Collective:

Photo taken by contributor Teija, a 36-year-old woman from Finland. She suffered from a severe depressive episode at the age of 25, which turned into psychosis, and led to a three month hospitalization. Fortunately, she got better quite quickly and got her life back on track. She found love after getting out of the hospital. Her life changed drastically when her partner was paralyzed in December of 2012. It has been hard ever since. They are both fighting to keep from getting too depressed. Life goes on and they try to stay strong. She has been interested in photography for many years, but began actively exploring it over the last four years. Before her partner’s accident, she had made up her mind and quit her day job to pursue being a photographer. Now she is working on making her dream a reality.

About this photo: “This photograph is titled ‘Angels Fall…

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