In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “180 Degrees.”
Tell us about a time you did a 180 — changed your views on something, reversed a decision, or acted in a way you ordinarily don’t.
Let me start this post with a very beautiful quote by Kahlil Gibran
It is very much true in our lives. We crave for love, and we meet heartbreaking moments. We crave for happiness and we meet many a sorrow filled moments. We crave for something and we get something else. All leading to answer less questions like
So what exactly is the role of pain in our lives?
Pain defines our life by refining us. It makes us better human beings. Without pain, we would never love the fruits of blessings in our life. Pain makes space for more good things to flow in our lives, only if we allow PAIN to teach us meaningful lessons in our life.
Coming back to the topic of today’s daily prompt. “All men are not dogs” below is my experience which was narrated to me by a girl whom I met on a bus journey few days back. (P.S I won’t get into details of how we met and what led to this talk. Instead I would prefer to write the gist of the talk)
She was young, beautiful and intelligent and had a decent job in her hands too. What was missing in her life was “LOVE”. She said during her teens, she had dated few boys who actually made her life quite a mess and had turned her heart into a garbage. She no longer felt like trusting men again. She felt like ALL MEN ARE DOGS. After years of mingling with different kind of people, she had finally accepted that there exists no man in this Universe who can make her statement on men turn FALSE.
Its during one of her business trips with a major company, she discovered a heart turning event in her life. She was on a business trip and was reading the book “LEAN IN” by Sheryl Sandberg. And the below quotes actually gave her better quality on who should be her life partner.
As she read this she asked herself, whether she wanted to spend the rest of her life alone, caged in a 2 Bedroom apartment of her own and brood over her past choices or make a bold choice and move on. After turning few more pages in the book, yet another quote changed her perceptions on having a life partner forever.
She asked herself “What would she do if she weren’t afraid of another heartbreak?” Her heart answered “Go and find the guy who can stick to her through thick and thin”. That’s when she started dating her best friend and slowly he changed her perception and made her believe in the statement that ALL MEN ARE NOT DOGS.
He made her feel comfortable in her own skin and asked her to see life from a different perspective. Past choices helped her reform her own behavior and one fine day, she knew she had the perfect life partner right infront of her. And it was not someone who was having looks and charm of Adonis, instead it was her own best friend who helped her trust in her capabilities, who helped her fix her wings and let her fly alone in the vast world. He was sexy in his own terms. He was sexy in his views on this world and was bold enough to help her in her decisions.
She never felt she was tied to common notion of “You are a woman, you got to be like this”. Instead she felt “I am the woman who can be whom I want to be”. As she said all this to me, I asked her one final question….
“So you are all set to marry your best friend”
She smiled and said ” Hell yes, I will marry that man who fixed my wings back. He turned my heart around and made me rethink on how I saw men in our society”
It was indeed an actual 180 Degree moment I saw in my life. This story really helped me to change few views on men and has helped me to find a better life partner for me in future.
Thanks for reading this post.
Lots of love and hugs,