Helplessness: that dull, sick feeling of not being the one at the reins. When did you last feel like that –- and what did you do about it?
I feel like that everytime when I see an ice cream parlor near me. The moment I see an ice cream parlor, i feel I am depressed and I need to eat Ice Creams now. The feeling of helplessness/ not being in control are all just reasons to grab that big tub of Chocolate Ice Cream, because sometimes all you have to do is….
Have you ever made a New Year’s Resolution that you kept?
Since many days I was longing to write this 2015 Roundup article and yet I was so busy in my work that I almost kept finishing all the other drafted blog posts except this one. Its already 18 days past New Year and today I am writing the 2015 Roundup article.
Last year, I started off with big lofty ambitions and ended up completing less than 15% of what I had actually pledged.
Some of the prominent ones being
Completion of 100 Books in a year
Completion of writing 200 Blog Posts
Purchasing a Camera
Reviewing all the 100 books
To my luck, all the 4 went utter flop. Prolonged Illness coupled with my recovery period totally took toll on my reading and blogging hours. But, there is always Next Time… isn’t it. I am happy for the fact that, inspite of all the challenges posed by life on me, I still managed to complete 16 Books yesterday which is good thing because in 2014 I could read just 12.
Coming back to Blogging, I could finish off some 70 Blog Posts last year and which is a bad number as compared to my 2014’s record which stands at 119.
Apart from all this, I spend some awesome time with my friends during my short film shooting. It is due for release this 2016 and I am also happy for the fact that I got rid of some emotional vampires out of my life. But life is always unpredictable, right when everything is settling down, it sends a lil storm for sure, just to make sure you are NO GODWOMAN to escape from the troubled waters of life.
There were major ups and downs, sprinkled with lot of tears and mayhem but right now as I am sitting and writing all this… I feel whatever happened, happened for a good cause. Most importantly I learnt few things last year:
Having big goals are always helpful. Because, if you miss the stars atleast you will land on moon
Never expect all your plans to go the way you had sketched them. Life is highly unpredictable.
Be prepared for challenges. They come when you least expect them to arrive.
No matter what people say, trust and believe in yourself. You are born to shine.
No dream is too big. Its all in your head. Because when me and my friend both started KTM Page we were really clueless. Today, after a year, the page is still going viral and we are both amazed at how our hardwork has finally paid off. The same applies for my BEING YOURSELF page too. I never thought, people would come to the page and support my message.
Never ever believe what others say to you. You are what you think of yourself. I think I am a writer and today I am proudly declaring myself one. You call yourself stupid, you remain stupid in your eyes forever. Its all in your thoughts.
Its okay to be a failure for big things shall arrive. If not now, atleast after few days. God’s delays are not God’s denials.
This year, hopefully, I believe in completing few more books, and blogging few more posts. All in the name of Passion. Because that defines me perfectly. I am passionate and it is this passion which keeps me going amidst all the chaos in my life.
Do you have a favorite quote that you return to again and again? What is it, and why does it move you?
I return to this quote again and again because, it reminds me of the importance of reading in one’s life. I have pinned this image in my mind strongly so that, even if get a minute of free time, I read something or the other which in turn has improved my overall personality exponentially.
This year, right after the stroke of Midnight, there were no wishes awaiting for me except for few of my close friends asking me to come and party. For which, as usual I had a huge NO Board in my hand.
But as I was busy denying all the party requests, somewhere in the deep abyss of my heart, I felt I should let go of all those NO Syndrome and start something new. Hence I thought of changing my mind, the very stroke of midnight and next morning, went to Nandi Hills with my friend Kishore.
It was a breath taking experience for me… the chilly weather, the mountains covered in thick clouds and above all, your bestie clicking photos of you. ha ha What more do you want. It was my first time, visiting Nandi Hills and I enjoyed it so much that, I had to reluctantly take the road to Bangalore after some 3 hours of loitering around the Nandi Hills. We were glad to take some of these pictures and had a very peaceful time.
5 Things Your Mother Doesn’t Tell You Before Getting Married In India.
Before I start reviewing the book, I would like to ask some questions which arises from Deliberate Sinner. If your answer is NO for more than 3 questions, then you should definitely see Marriage from Rihana’s point of view. Rihana is an independent girl in the story who undergoes hell after her marriage with Veer.
Would you marry someone who would propose you relentlessly only to leave you after few days?
Would you be with a partner who is concerned only with his sex life and doesn’t give a damn about yours?
Do you wish to discover your husband sleeps with some other woman only because she calls him TIGER on the bed?
Will you be able to forgive and forget your partner even after he has committed adultery in your marital life?
Will you still think about SOCIETY when your entire world is totally fucked up because your partner is an emotional and a sexual vampire sucking out everything from you?
Welcome to Bhaavna Arora’s best selling novel THE DELIBERATE SINNER.
If you superficially see the book, all it speaks is of the importance of having good sex life in a marriage. But what is most importantly, highlighted throughout the book is it raises questions like these…
So where is the actual problem lying in.. Why are people so shy and still think it’s not a woman’s right to ask for what she wants on bed? Why is it always a section dominated by only men? Why is that men do not understand the needs of a woman on bed? Is woman just an object of satisfaction in all marriages? What happens, when a woman tries to correct it? Will she succeed? Will she be able to answer the conservative Indian Family which thinks a WOMAN should always cater to her MAN in the bed and never expect anything from him? The deliberate sinner answers all of these questions through the protagonist Rihana and her lovely asshole husband Veer.
Our Indian Mom’s are pretty much like this… Not joking. But there are still such people who find it difficult to answer questions like these….
Our Mothers are trained in such a way that, they think sexual education is something which every woman gets to know only after her first night with her husband. Doesn’t matter whether he fucks you hard and lets you bleed … Doesn’t matter whether he abuses you in that process and hurts you emotionally…. No matter what… Indian Mothers always teach their daughters to love her husband unconditionally….
Here are the 5 things that every mother should be telling their daughter before she enters into a married life:
In a relationship, both husband and wife are equal.
If there are issues, try to solve it. If the situation doesn’t improve, seek help. If it’s still worse… please chuck him and come home. Because home is where the heart is.
As a daughter, her happiness should be of primary importance for her parents and this should be assured to her. If her partner is abusive, she should be assured by her parents that they will stand by her and will not tolerate it.
Sex is important ingredient in any marriage. And demanding an orgasmic sex is not a crime. Period.
A partner who doesn’t learn from his mistakes and seeks love from elsewhere is definitely not worth having. Time to divorce baby.
The synopsis of the story makes one realize how much women suffer silently in their marital lives because of selfish husbands on bed. Our society needs to change. It has built a strong notion that, orgasm is only the right of a man and…..what about a woman? God knows whether she even gets it or not. Millions of women in India, get married and end up in the relationship for decades just because they have kids and the society will not accept them if they say their sex life actually fucked up their relationship.
But what we tend to forget is, many a times, sex itself would have been the driving force of any relationship. A happy physical bonding is very important to build solid relationships. When will our parents realize this? When will our society open up? Maybe its time for them to read THE DELIBERATE SINNER.
“Mohini – of Bollywood dreams and Obsessions” is a novel written by Ramendra Kumar. It is Ramendra Kumar’s 22nd Book. The author has been an award winning Indian Writer for children with 24 Books in English and Translations in 7 foreign and 8 Indian Languages. Mohini is his first book exclusively written for Adults. The book has a record of being a best seller and was sold out completely during its first week of its release. (Src: WikiPedia)
The book is strictly written keeping very matured audience in mind. It is definitely not recommended for people who do not read on prostitution/ rape / misogynism/ violent abuse on women and gender discrimination. It presents the raw story of a girl called Manga who struggles her way up the ladder for the sake of becoming a superstar in Bollywood and succeeds in becoming one.
But the question remains…. at what cost?
Manga, the small town girl from Mumbai, dreams of becoming a superstar through hook or crook. She manages to fight all the obstacles that come on her way with unwavering courage and grit. Thanks to people like Imran Bhai, Vicky and Sam who serve as excellent aids to her in becoming one. Inspite of having the right people around her to support every step of hers in this endeavour, there are few times when her own circle of friends like Imran and Vicky play very strong roles of an antagonist.
In a world like Bollywood, where a woman is treated as a meagre sex symbol, Manga – begins her journey as Mohini and survives every challenge that people plot against her. The way Ramendra has provided the twists are worth reading and is definitely a page turner. The book mainly portrays the struggles faced by those millions and millions of girls who carry big dreams and enter the city of dreams, Mumbai and end up becoming someone whom they never wanted to be. It also shows the shades of grey hidden in each man in this huge Indian Cinema Industry and throws light on how as a woman you can beat the odds through your charms and wit.
I gave a rating of 5 on 5 for this book mainly for the following reasons:
Mohini stands for the quote “Maybe life isn’t about avoiding the bruises. Maybe it’s about collecting the scars to prove we showed up for it”. Right from being the sidekick in the industry to becoming the dream girl, Mohini suffers a dreadful journey. Series of betrayals and loads of disappointments come her way. What makes her strong is her will to become superstar.
Mohini is a sweet daughter, lovely partner for Sam, dream girl of many and a good human being from inside. But the world outside her, brands her as a sex symbol and an object of desire. She teaches how to not give up your dreams when you are swimming in an ocean full of people who leech out the positivity from you.
Mohini is the kind of woman whom you will love and hate. You will love her for her innocence in trusting her good friends and hate her for being a bitch when she retaliates against men who try to harm her.
Mohini is a perfect example for all those women who want to be fire and end up being one, thanks to the brutal society which judges them wrongly at each step and compliments the same woman when she is at the peak of her career.
The book teaches, how fragile and dangerous a woman can be at any given point of time. She is the kitten for the man who loves her to the core and she is the bitch for the same man who tries to shatter her dreams by male dominance and ignorant behavior. A bold woman is nothing but a person who has the courage to swim against the current and emerge as a winner.
I would suggest this book to all those women out there who want to explore the darker side of Bollywood. Mohini definitely is a tale of bollywood dreams and obsessions.
One of my favorite professors during my Undergraduate Degree Classes, named as Vishwanath Pai once said on his Birthday
No matter how old I turn to, I am always young at heart
I don’t know why, after all these years, I have forgotten many things he lectured but this one statement always remains etched in my heart. We all lie to ourselves saying “Its too late to learn this” “I am too old to understand this”, but in reality you are always capable of becoming whatever you wish to become. One of the best examples of an old man who never gave up and started his own brand in this world would be the story of KFC, world’s second largest restaurant chain next to Mc D.
Below are some simple quotes to remind you that no matter what age you are in… you are always Young at your heart.