5 Things Your Mother Doesn’t Tell You Before Getting Married In India.
Before I start reviewing the book, I would like to ask some questions which arises from Deliberate Sinner. If your answer is NO for more than 3 questions, then you should definitely see Marriage from Rihana’s point of view. Rihana is an independent girl in the story who undergoes hell after her marriage with Veer.
- Would you marry someone who would propose you relentlessly only to leave you after few days?
- Would you be with a partner who is concerned only with his sex life and doesn’t give a damn about yours?
- Do you wish to discover your husband sleeps with some other woman only because she calls him TIGER on the bed?
- Will you be able to forgive and forget your partner even after he has committed adultery in your marital life?
- Will you still think about SOCIETY when your entire world is totally fucked up because your partner is an emotional and a sexual vampire sucking out everything from you?
Welcome to Bhaavna Arora’s best selling novel THE DELIBERATE SINNER.
If you superficially see the book, all it speaks is of the importance of having good sex life in a marriage. But what is most importantly, highlighted throughout the book is it raises questions like these…
So where is the actual problem lying in.. Why are people so shy and still think it’s not a woman’s right to ask for what she wants on bed? Why is it always a section dominated by only men? Why is that men do not understand the needs of a woman on bed? Is woman just an object of satisfaction in all marriages? What happens, when a woman tries to correct it? Will she succeed? Will she be able to answer the conservative Indian Family which thinks a WOMAN should always cater to her MAN in the bed and never expect anything from him? The deliberate sinner answers all of these questions through the protagonist Rihana and her lovely asshole husband Veer.
Our Indian Mom’s are pretty much like this… Not joking. But there are still such people who find it difficult to answer questions like these….
Our Mothers are trained in such a way that, they think sexual education is something which every woman gets to know only after her first night with her husband. Doesn’t matter whether he fucks you hard and lets you bleed … Doesn’t matter whether he abuses you in that process and hurts you emotionally…. No matter what… Indian Mothers always teach their daughters to love her husband unconditionally….
Here are the 5 things that every mother should be telling their daughter before she enters into a married life:
In a relationship, both husband and wife are equal.
If there are issues, try to solve it. If the situation doesn’t improve, seek help. If it’s still worse… please chuck him and come home. Because home is where the heart is.
As a daughter, her happiness should be of primary importance for her parents and this should be assured to her. If her partner is abusive, she should be assured by her parents that they will stand by her and will not tolerate it.
Sex is important ingredient in any marriage. And demanding an orgasmic sex is not a crime. Period.
A partner who doesn’t learn from his mistakes and seeks love from elsewhere is definitely not worth having. Time to divorce baby.
The synopsis of the story makes one realize how much women suffer silently in their marital lives because of selfish husbands on bed. Our society needs to change. It has built a strong notion that, orgasm is only the right of a man and…..what about a woman? God knows whether she even gets it or not. Millions of women in India, get married and end up in the relationship for decades just because they have kids and the society will not accept them if they say their sex life actually fucked up their relationship.
But what we tend to forget is, many a times, sex itself would have been the driving force of any relationship. A happy physical bonding is very important to build solid relationships. When will our parents realize this? When will our society open up? Maybe its time for them to read THE DELIBERATE SINNER.