#124 – One Indian Girl – A Review

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As promised earlier this year, that I will be reading lots of Indian Fiction books and publishing my 2 pointer review on the same. Here I go presenting my new review on the very famously under rated book “One Indian Girl” written by Chetan Bhagat.

  1. Did I like the book? Yes. I would rate it 4.5 out of 5 (Punch on my face later). What seems like another annoying fictional Chethan Bhagat story is actually “the story” of many high achieving, unlovable women in our society. Inspite of the fact that they are so much capable of handling multiple roles in their lives, men force them to choose only one role and when they ask “Why” they are dumped ruthlessly or even worse termed as “You are not wife material”. The book is one time readable and explores peripherals of one amongst many issues that career-oriented women face in India.
  2. One of the key statements that touched my heart was when the protagonist Radhika asks her parents

“He (father) used to tell me, “Beta, when you grow up, you can do whatever you want. The sky is the limit for you. Why do people tell girls all this? You ask them to achieve things, but when they do, you can’t handle it. Why does it become “you are not even a girl anymore”?”.

In addition to this, I also liked another line by the character Brijesh Gulati , protagonists would-be husband telling her

“Frankly you or for that matter, any girl, doesn’t need a man to define her. You need a man to support, inspire… understand you. Help you be the best person you can be, banker, mother, both, whatever. And until you find a man you can trust enough to do that, why settle?”

My next pick will be from authors Savi Sharma or Robin Sharma. Will post a review on both the books soon.

Keep Reading. Keep Inspiring.

Love,

ARK

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#121 – This Is Not Your Story – A Review


This year I have decided to finish off every Indian fiction book review of mine in just two pointers. A lot of people said that I become very verbose when I write a review and end up giving them spoilers. So, to prevent it here I go with my first book review of the year.

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My 2 liner review of this book is:

  1. Sometimes we look at our own lives and settle down for the easiest option which satisfies our comfort zone. Hardly we ever know that everything we ever wanted is on the other side of the comfort zone.
  2. Everyone has a unique story. If only we take the leap of faith and choose to follow it, we will understand what is our true story.

Beautiful and simple book. Savi Sharma you nailed it.

What are you reading now? Let me know about it.

Love,

ARK

#95 – Fish!: A Remarkable Way to Boost Morale and Improve Results


And what if you did not enjoy those 90,000 hours at all. What if ….

  1. Your organization lays too many restrictions on your working nature and hinders your freedom.
  2. Your organization doesn’t realize that you are getting bored with the same work which you have been doing since ages
  3. Your manager doesn’t like you wearing jeans or reading that novel on your desk and emphasizes you to follow a strict dress code and makes you read only Work Related Books.
  4. Your boss doesn’t like you listening that loud metal song 24*7 because he thinks, while you are working you are suppose to have no fun.
  5. Your enthusiasm in the job is declining each day
  6. Your family life is slipping away from your hand and you are unable to balance your life.

If the answer is yes to any one of these questions, then you ought to start FISHing in your life.

So what is FISH !!!

The FISH series is a set of books, which teach you how to transform that toxic energy workplace to a positive and re-energized place.

I finished reading the first one in the series that is the FISH ! which explains what is the FISH ! philosophy all about and what does it offer for you.

Let me remind you, we can apply this FISH principle everywhere. It works best for large/small organizations, it heals your ailing start up, it transforms relationships around you and helps you enjoy life each day. It is all about choosing your attitude today, tomorrow and each day. As the video states, it teaches you to the below principles that one needs to apply in life.

How did this help me?

It has helped me the way I see certain people around me. It has helped me how to have better control over my life and has helped me to get back on my usual Yoga Routine and sleep habits. It has helped me to enjoy my work and apply creativity in new places which I never discovered until I read this book.

This small book, is just  110 pages and it delivers so much within that short length. You will definitely enjoy the ride to Pike Fish Place and also learn how to enjoy life, when your workplace becomes a hell hole for you. I would recommend this book to all those people who want to stop worrying about their workplace and want to enjoy their work.

#94 – Charging The Human Battery – 50 Ways To Motivate Yourself


Okay. Time for some introduction to today’s post now.

Simple Truths is the brain-child of Mac Anderson, the founder of Successories. The name “Simple Truths” was conceived following an article Mac read eight years ago that stated that 80 percent of the books purchased in a bookstore never get read. ffWith this thought in mind, he believed that many books were too lengthy for today’s fast-paced world. After further reflecting on the success of two of the all-time best-selling books: The One Minute Manager by Ken Blanchard and Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson, he kept coming back to the same word, “simple,” and the concept that less can truly be more when it comes to books. This was the philosophy and the foundation on which Simple Truths was built. Src:http://www.simpletruths.com/about-us.html

Mac Anderson believes that the right words can engage the brain and bring an idea to life. True to this statement, I happened to stumble across this book called “Charging The Human Battery- 50 Ways To Motivate Yourself” during one of my afternoon strolls to the library. The first thing, that caught my attention in the book was this quote:

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This quote somehow made me read the entire book in one stretch and left me with a question as to why the hell am I seeing life in only certain angles. This book is a perfect bouquet of mind gripping quotes , soulful poems and simple explanations on how to stay motivated all the time. Especially the story of 3900 Saturdays and a thousand Marbles.

The story of 3900 Saturdays  really changed the way I started seeing my weekends. It is a very popular story and is worth reading again and again in all our lives. Here is the story.

3900 Saturdays and 1000 Marbles

The older I get the more I enjoy Saturday mornings. Perhaps it’s the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise, or maybe it’s the unbounded joy of not having to be at work. Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable.

A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the garage with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time.

Let me tell you about it.

I turned the dial up into the phone portion of the band on my ham radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning swap net. Along the way, I came across an older sounding chap, with a tremendous signal and a golden voice. You know the kind; he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business. He was telling whomever he was talking with something about “a thousand marbles.” I was intrigued and stopped to listen to what he had to say.

“Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. It’s too bad you missed your daughter’s dance recital” he continued. “Let me tell you something that has helped me keep my own priorities.” And that’s when he began to explain his theory of a “thousand marbles.”

“You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic.. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.”

“Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3900, which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now, stick with me, Tom, I’m getting to the important part. It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail”, he went on, “and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy. So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round up 1000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside a large, clear plastic container right here in the shack next to my gear.”

“Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away. I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life.”

“There is nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.”

“Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign-off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast. This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure that if I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time. And the one thing we can all use is a little more time.”

“It was nice to meet you Tom, I hope you spend more time with your family, and I hope to meet you again here on the band. This is a 75 Year old Man, K9NZQ, clear and going QRT, good morning!”

You could have heard a pin drop on the band when this fellow signed off. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to work on the antenna that morning, and then I was going to meet up with a few hams to work on the next club newsletter.

Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss… “C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.” “What brought this on” she asked with a smile.” “Oh, nothing special, it’s just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. And hey, can we stop at a toy store while we’re out? I need to buy some marbles.”

Previously, I always lived my lifestyle in such a way that, I always gave more importance to my lengthy TO DO list on my weekends and in turn would miss out all the important get togethers with friends. After reading this story, I have visited my home town again after very long time even though I had a very big to do list waiting for me. I spent the last 3 weekends with my family and friends and really started counting on the no of marbles left with me.

On a whole, Please make sure you buy this small 141 pages book and recharge yourself to a whole new life again.

Until then, keep reading books. 

Lots of Love,

ARK

#93 – Peaks And Valleys Making Good And Bad Times Work For You– At Work And In Life


“It Is Natural For Everyone Everywhere To Have Peaks And Valleys At Work And In Life.”

Yes ! It is absolutely true.

No man ever on this Earth had only peaks (good times) throughout his life. Life is always a mixture of good times and bad times (Valleys), and it is best enjoyed that way. I picked up this small book consisting of 112 pages from our Company’s Library and found the above mentioned quote very apt to my life.51a0P8SX5eL.jpg

Thus began my journey with an old man and a young man from the book, who took me deep through the valleys of life and roused my interest to the peaks, finally making me learn some beautiful things in life. I can never take this book out of my mind, atleast in this lifetime. This book has got so much to offer to each person. It is a short parable of a young man  who is very unhappy living in a valley. He decides to take the big leap, by deciding to scale up the peaks. What awaits him when he reaches up the summit and what lessons does that experience teach him forms the rest of the parable.

This story is like one size that fits all. It could be narrated to a small kid as a bed time story, and could be presented during your board meetings too. Such is the beauty of this story. Basically it entirely changes the way you start looking at your problems. It imprints some principles like below permanently in your brain:

“You Cannot Always Control External Events, But You Can Control Your Personal Peaks And Valleys By What You Believe And What You Do.”

The Path Out Of The Valley Appears When You Choose To See Things Differently.

You Change Your Valley Into A Peak When You Find And Use The Good That Is Hidden In The Bad Time.

The below quote is one of my favorites from the book:

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I suggested this book to many of them and luckily all of them have given a positive feedback on the book. I request you all to purchase this small story book and start reading it.

Happy Reading !!

Lots of Love,

ARK