Posted in change, Contemplation, Daily Prompts

10 Best Moves That Changed My Life Forever


Here are the top 10 moves that I started adapting over the few years which changed my life for good.

  1. Never announce your moves before you make them. Keep it to yourself and journal it for your daily reference.
  2. Save for today.
  3. Plan for retirement in your early 25’s
  4. Decrease your dependency towards depreciating assets and plan your finances carefully.
  5. Always have emergency funds at your disposal. If you are wondering how much should I have in my emergency fund now, calculate it here.
  6. Distance yourself from people who no longer fuel your ambitions. Read how you can achieve it here.
  7. Take good care of your body by exercising daily. Your body will thank you later. These seven minute workouts are really going to help you begin the journey.
  8. Prioritize your life first. Declutter rest everything from your life. Don’t know where to start? Here are some simple and effective ways to begin with.
  9. Do not burn your opportunities for temporary indulgements in things which serve no purpose a year later. Always apply the 1-3-5 rule when in confusion.
  10. Start reading a book every day. It is always hard in the beginning but you will love reading once you start embracing it as your daily routine. ‘

What are the best moves in your life?

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Prompts

How I Survived 4 Years of Blogging


Everything comes with a price in life and everyone has a story to tell in this world. – Savi Sharma

Savi Sharma’s books keep on stressing the same thing over and over again. Today I met few friends of mine in the evening when they asked me “How do you manage to write so much”. I was like

“Writing has become like food for me”

When I write, I don’t really count how much should I fill on the given space. I write until I feel “This is it. Publish it”.

For me, writing has always been a kind of escape from distractions. When I start writing, it is just me and the pen + paper. On WordPress, it is just me and the editor. I do not drift between multiple tabs nor start browsing too many things when I am writing. The train of thoughts just flow and all I do is give them a voice.

Today one of my colleagues pointed out that even on Instagram I write mini blogs in the name of a caption. Well, that was a nice compliment. And this is not the first time people are telling me this one. A lot of people say “It’s so good to see you writing since 2013 (although I initially began in the year 2009 and then kept my blog idle till 2012), we cannot write because we don’t write like you”

Whenever I hear them talk like this, I feel like telling them, that

“Everyone has a story to tell. Everyone is a writer, some are written in the books and some are confined to hearts.” – Savi Sharma, Everyone has a story

I don’t know how many of us deny this statement. But the fact remains unchanged that we all have stories within us. All we have to do is give them space and voice to see the daylight. Becoming a blogger was one of those many dreams I had in life. And here is how I became one.

It all started when I was in my first year of Bachelor’s Degree i.e in 2009 when accidentally I saw few Telugu bloggers writing serial blog posts which were going viral all over blogspot. The posts were hilarious. And the response they were getting was tremendous. I was very surprised to see how a writer sitting in a remote village can inspire hundreds of people with one post each week.

I too wanted to be a blogger and pen down each and every feeling inside me. But I didn’t know how. Accidentally I created one blog and then I forgot how to go and access it again. Blame it on my poor tech skills back then. With no internet connection at home, I sort of occasionally kept following those Telugu bloggers until there came a day when I really started one. Thanks to MNC life. Creativity often sprouts after frustration.

WordPress came to my rescue. There was no tension of what theme should I use, or what should I write. WordPress had this Daily Post blog where any novice could go and see how to start and what to do. Each day, the daily prompts section used to host a topic and all I had to do was just sit and think what to write. For days, I used to be blank, but then slowly I started writing one post a week. The initial posts were very terrible. It did not have proper theme or structure. But after a month or so, when I started following few reputed bloggers like Rarasaur I understood that blogging is not just writing what you feel. It is about giving love and care to your readers as well. It need not have any specific structure. You just had to be yourself.

This kind of gave me a new hope that in this big world, I can write what I feel and also discover that there are a hundred others who feel similarly like me. I did not hesitate to put up my first blog on Facebook and Twitter. Lot of them laughed at my writing, but I kept on writing anyway. I always cherish the quote of aerodynamics and bumble bee.

bumble bee quotes

Few people on WordPress told, I was good at writing and that sort gave a huge boost to my confidence and I kept on writing. In 2014, I sort of got into serious blogging, spending my time and energy on improving the theme and writing quality. I took feedbacks from people and started working diligently towards it.

There are no shortcuts to success.If you want to be a writer, then you have to write daily. As simple as that.

 

With each post, my writing improved. I made more mistakes, more people laughed. I learned new things. But most importantly I did not give up. I did not aim to be the kind of long-form writer I am today. All I wanted to do was to express my emotions to the outside world as clearly as possible. On the contrary, bloggers like Belle Jar inspired me to come out of my shell and be as vocal as possible turning me from a stumbling writer to a long-form writer. These bloggers gave me a new ray of hope that being too loud, too outspoken is okay in a digital space.

But just like any other blogger, I too lost my focus due to various reasons. My focus shifted to motorcycling and gave myself completely to Duke Machas. Thanks to my favorite blogger on Medium, Mr.Srinivas Rao, I once again came back to blogging. His blog post on “How Writing 1000 Words A Day Changed My Life?”

And as he says, everything starts with being very terrible at the beginning. But a consistent practice will elevate your skills and make you better. So, I urge all of you to start writing from today. Do not be afraid to put yourself out in the digital space. What can happen if at all you write something very funny? People might laugh. That’s it. Over a period of time, nobody gives a fuck to anyone. People get busier with their own shit that they seldom would have time to come and keep checking your blog.

So do not cage your emotions. Give voice to those unspoken words and blog it out. Whenever you get stuck, do leave a message here. I will always be there to help you out.

Stay hungry. Stay Foolish. Stay Humble.

Love,

ARK

Posted in 365 Degree Blogging, Contemplation, Daily Prompts

Her Popularity Comes With A Price


The term impostor phenomenon is used to designate an internal experience of intellectual phonies, which appears to be particularly prevalent and intense among a select sample of high achieving women. Certain early family dynamics and later introjection of societal sex-role stereotyping appear to contribute significantly to the development of the impostor phenomenon. Despite outstanding academic and professional accomplishments, women who experience the imposter phenomenon persists in believing that they are really not bright and have fooled anyone who thinks otherwise. Numerous achievements, which one might expect to provide ample object evidence of superior intellectual functioning, do not appear to affect the impostor belief. Four factors, which contribute to the maintenance of impostor feelings over time, are explored. Therapeutic approaches found to be effective in helping women change the impostor self-concept are described.

reads the abstract of “The Impostor Phenomenon in High Achieving Women: Dynamics and Therapeutic Intervention” – a paper written by Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes from Georgia State University.

I was always fascinated by the term Impostor since the day I read an article about how even some of the great role model figures like Sheryl Sandberg, Emma Watson and Kate Winslet suffer from this syndrome. Popularity for women always comes with a price. And sometimes it takes toll on her self image and the scars last for a lifetime if not treated with proper care.

Impostor Syndrome is one such behavior. In their paper Pauline and Suzanne have gone to the depths of how this behavior arises and is prevalent among women. It’s not that Impostor syndrome is associated with specific gender. It is found both in men and women but it lasts longer in women as compared to men. The main reason for this being the stereotyping of women in our society.

It sometimes starts right from within the family when parents start being indifferent to their kids. When parents label one of the siblings as “bright, intelligent, creative” and the other as “sensitive, fragile, calm” kids presume those attributes to be true and act accordingly. Usually when a girl is always compared to her brother and told that she is a girl, so she has to be sensitive, compassionate, kind, and she is not good enough to pick a fight with boys, instead of empowering her, parents unknowingly are pushing her into becoming one impostor.

Ask how? The girl who has been now labelled as weak and fragile will continue to fight against that mental image painted by her parents. Each day she tries to break the glass cieling and fast forward this nature for another 10 years, you would get a perfectly crafted imposter syndrome stricken woman. A woman who would always doubt her abilities and always thinks “Maybe I just got lucky that my entrepreneurial debut is making a six digit income” , “Maybe the jury was being very considerate in nominating my name for the best business woman of the year”.

Added to all this, I have seen a lot of workplaces where if a woman has achieved something a man could never achieve all they would do is “Why not… after all she has got a beautiful face, boobs and pussy… she can get things done”. I might sound very lewd and disgusting for some. But the reality doesn’t change. In 2011, the Institute of Leadership and Management surveyed managers about how confident they felt in their professions – and half of the female respondents reported self-doubt in their jobs, compared to less than a third of men. It’s not that these women were inefficient or not qualified enough to take up their roles. It’s the constant fear of falling into the dilemma of whether to accept that she is fit for the role or to dismiss the entire fact and say “Hey it was just by fluke”. Either ways, she is not going to have mental peace until she accepts that she is as good as any other person in that role.

People should always remember that feminine charms are not everything in this world. A woman can be pretty and yet be dumb. These kind of women often drop off in the middle of their career in pursuit of love – marriage and – baby carriage. Taking these kind of women as an example you cannot target every other woman walking on the road as “She has boobs and pussy so she get’s things done”.

There are hundreds and thousands of women who are paying price for being smart, for being successful, for being pretty + badass, for being intelligent + creative, for being gutsy + sensitive and most importantly just because she is a woman. . They suffer silently throughout their teens proving their abilities to their parents, relatives and society. Once they get into their work places, they suffer even more because the stakes are really high. And how many more people are they going to prove if they become CEO’s of MNC’s , CIO/CTO’s of large tech firms (which is largely filled with male workers) , professors of reputed universities. The self doubt increases until there comes a point when each significant achievement they accomplish seems like “Ok. Maybe I wasn’t worth it. What’s next to achieve so that I can justify I really deserve this”. The loop doesn’t end. It goes on and on until it takes a toll on their self esteem and damages a part of their personality forever.

Here are some tips from famous super achievers among women who are dealing with impostor syndrome on a regular basis:

Sheryl Sandberg:

“Every time I was called on in class, I was sure that I was about to embarrass myself. Every time I took a test, I was sure that it had gone badly. And every time I didn’t embarrass myself — or even excelled — I believed that I had fooled everyone yet again. One day soon, the jig would be up … This phenomenon of capable people being plagued by self-doubt has a name — the impostor syndrome. Both men and women are susceptible to the impostor syndrome, but women tend to experience it more intensely and be more limited by it.” —Lean In, March 2013

Emma Watson

“It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved. I can’t possibly live up to what everyone thinks I am and what everyone’s expectations of me are. It’s weird — sometimes [success] can be incredibly validating, but sometimes it can be incredibly unnerving and throw your balance off a bit, because you’re trying to reconcile how you feel about yourself with how the rest of the world perceives you.” —Rookie, May 2013

Natalie Portman

On being a Harvard student: “So I have to admit that today, even 12 years after graduation, I’m still insecure about my own worthiness. I have to remind myself today, You are here for a reason. Today, I feel much like I did when I came to Harvard Yard as a freshman in 1999 … I felt like there had been some mistake — that I wasn’t smart enough to be in this company and that every time I opened my mouth I would have to prove I wasn’t just a dumb actress. … Sometimes your insecurities and your inexperience may lead you to embrace other people’s expectations, standards, or values, but you can harness that inexperience to carve out your own path — one that is free of the burden of knowing how things are supposed to be, a path that is defined by its own particular set of reasons.” —Harvard Commencement 2015, May 2015

Kate Winslet

“What people really think of me is something I remain blissfully unaware of most of the time. I love acting and all I ever try to do is my best. But even now I always dread those emotional scenes. I’m there thinking, ‘Oh my God, I’m rubbish and everyone is going to see it. They’ve cast the wrong person.’ But I have come to realize that those nerves are all part of the process for me.” —The Mirror, June 2013

So the next time you hate a woman for being bossy and super successful, please remember the journey and the mental fight that she must have fought in order to feel super confident about her own abilities. Her popularity comes with a huge price. Respect the journey and hard-work of each individual irrespective of a woman or man. Before you judge others make sure you are “picture perfect”.

Quote Courtesy: http://ow.ly/1Wku30fU0jL

Posted in Book Reviews, Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

Notes from a friend – A Review


Yes. This time I finished off another book in a week by Anthony Robbins. He is the famous author of books like Unlimited Power and Awaken the Giant Within.

I had got a glimpse of Tony’s writing in the book Unlimited Power where he had described how much our diet plays an important role in fueling excellence and peak performance in our lives. I was amazed at all the tips given by Tony and was surprised how we all do the common mistakes and abuse our own bodies and later blame the lifestyle saying “I am tired due to this fast moving life”.

The book “Notes from a friend” is no less than a 100 pages book. It is combination of both Unlimited Power + Awaken the Giant within. The main purpose of writing this book was to condense the 400+ 400 pages worth information from both the books into one single small book. Tony has once again proved himself that he is a leader in terms of helping people realize their true potential within these 100 pages.

Here are some of the things that the book teaches you:

TONY (1)

Following are the stories described in the above image.

COLONEL SANDERS STORY

SOICHIRO HONDA STORY

STANISLAVASKY LECH’S STORY

Tony asks us to write down the 2 important decisions in our lives and focus on them.

The Lilypad

TONY’S CAR RACING LESSON

car

TONY’S MORNING EVENING RITUAL OF ASKING QUESTIONS THAT CAN SAVE YOUR LIFE

2

1

 

3

pack (4)

In addition to all these, if you find a copy of Awaken the Giant Within the following chapters could be read if you find the entire book quite intimidating with its huge volume

  1. Decisions: The Pathway to Power
  2. Belief Systems: The Power to Create and the Power to Destroy
  3. How to get what you really want
  4. Questions are the Answer
  5. The Vocabulary of Ultimate Success
  6. Destroy the blocks, Break down the wall, Let Go of the Rope and Dance your way to Success: The Power of Life Metaphors
  7. The Magnificent Obsession- Creating a Compelling Future
  8. The 10 Day Mental Challenge
  9. Energy: The Fuel of Excellence (From Unlimited Power)

Overall I would give this book a 5/5 rating since it speaks in a very simple manner what is required to get hold of your life when life controls you and drives you crazy.

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

What’s True & What’s Untrue?


At this wee hours… I want to share a few things.

The Struggle between the truth and the false

In life very often, we are caught amidst a strong vortex of “What’s true and what’s not”. Its this dilemma which causes great things unfold infront of us.

The constant lies that we keep telling ourselves…. like the ones we say to ourselves whenever we see ourselves obese on the weighing machine. Instead of getting out of the couch and jogging the next morning, we choose to be lazy enough to say to ourselves “You aren’t yet that fat to workout”

The strong truth which slams our faces when we see our dreams getting shattered infront of us. The bitter truth of “betrayal” seasoned with irrational proofs making us believe “Humanity doesn’t exist anymore”. What’s true?

The friend who stays with you in the name of “revenge”. or the Lover who stays with you in the name of fatal destruction. What’s true? What’s untrue?

Each day, I convince my heart saying “Today is going to be the best last day of my life”. Why best last and not “best” or just “last” day… you may be wondering….

I always feel that way. Because each day it is indeed the best day to be better than who you were yesterday… and the last day to be the worst version of yours. Its never too late to be who you want to be. Never too early to believe what you perceive it to be….

Tiny droplets of #OneLove kissing my cheeks…. Feet drenched in puddles of memories….Thunder of the revenge of past…. and Soothing calmness of the sea awaiting to drown you down forever in a deluge ….What’s true and What’s not…

My soul is still searching the truth of life….

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, LOVE, Motivation

Superstitions & Love


Monsters Devils

Today i am going to write on a topic which is quite different from my conventional blog posts. It was real hot Saturday afternoon when i was strolling around my home out of boredom i thought why not read a book. Just as i was about to go inside i heard a dog wailing in pain. And as i scanned for the creature all i found was a dog being stoned by a man. I asked him why are you stoning the dog and the answer was it keeps on howling facing my home. My dad is severely ill and i fear this creature may fasten up his process of going to heaven….

I was seriously taken aback with this statement and i questioned him back “But was this not the usual dog which used to daily sleep near your veranda?” And he nodded his head in agreement. I then asked him “Howling is really irritating and i agree but how is this linked to stoning a dog which never howled before… Maybe it is sufferring from some problem” and as i was saying this i observed the dog had contracted a very serious infection right behind its head. As the place was unreachable for the dog to lick and heal the wound got further putrefied and festered. The odor was indeed unbearable and i could understand how much pain the poor thing was undergoing. Without paying heed to what i actually want to convey he started stoning it and some kids joined him in the process. Finally the dog gave up and fled away from the scene.

I started thinking how much each one of us are caught up in the trap of superstitions. I myself believe in certain superstitions like if i see my aunt early in the morning my entire day shall be grumpy one… or even worse the day i wake up late is never a good day for me.. In a hurry i forget keys to my house door or forget my oxygen supplying headphones (Music is my oxygen) or forget my ID Card and then i blame it entirely on the “i woke up late” moment. Its hard to even imagine a life in India where one doesn’t believe in single superstition.

As planned i came inside cursing the poor irrational mindset of the man and picked up the much awaited book which was gifted by my bro Adarsha i.e. Of Love & Other Demons by the famous Colombian Novelist Gabriel Garcia Marquez.

Of Love & Other demonsThis was the first book that I had started reading from Gabriel Garcia. So i quickly gave a read to the Author’s appreciation from Various sources followed by the Introduction of the Author.I then read the backside of the book

“AN ASH-GREY DOG WITH A WHITE BLAZE ON ITS FOREHEAD BURST ON TO THE ROUGH TERRAIN OF THE MARKET ON THE FIRST SUNDAY OF DECEMBER”

this short line gripped me more… i quickly opened the first page and once again found this

“For hair, it seems, is less concerned in the resurrection than other parts of the body.” – THOMAS AQUINAS On the Integrity of Resurrected Bodies

These lines made me further curious to know what has this story got to do with hair and dog.

The book opens up with Maestro Clemente Manuel Zabala editor-in-chief of a newspaper who is informed about the burial crypts of the old Convent of Santa Clara which are being emptied as some 5 star hotel was going to built on that place. The first step was to empty the crypts and then transfer the remains to anyone who claimed and bury the rest in a common grave. A strange thing that happens when laborers are digging out a body. As the laborers axe the grave a stream of living hair of dark copper color emerges out of the grave and when they start excavating more the more longer gets the hair. When they measure the entire hair they find that the hair was 22 meters and 11 centimeters.  The name on the grave would be SIERVA MARIA DE TODOS LOS ANGELES

A worker standing by the grave says that human hair grew a centimeter a month after death and 22 meters means this hair must have been growing since 200 years. Just as the workers says this Gabriel Garcia is reminded of a legendary tale which his grandmother told him. The legend of a 12 year old marquise with hair that trailed behind her like train and who contracted Rabies caused by a dog bite and had supernatural powers. The tomb became the news for Maestro Clemente Manuel Zabala but for Gabriel Garcia it turned out to be masterpiece book.

The book is simply written beautifully in neat 5 chapters. Each chapter highlighting the transition of the girl from her childhood to various stages of her life till her death by exorcism.

Chapter 1:

The dog bites the girl Sierva Maria which the Servant maid ignores by just doing a minimal first aid and the thing goes entirely unnoticed in the family. The girl’s step mother  Bernarda Cabrera is a woman wasted in various bowel problems always. She doesnt pay attention to this incident. The father of the kid Marquis de Casalduero also pays less attention to this.The girl Sierva due to this negligence spends most of the time in slave quarters learning their slangs and their culture. She refuses to be a part of this English family of hers. She learns the ability to speak and sing in different voices and the slaves too get deeply attached to her. Once when the servant maid discovers that the dog which bit the girl was rabid she informs this to Bernarda who ignores this as the wounds were dry and nothing serious had happened to the girl after the bite.

It is Sagunta a healer for rabies comes and informs Marquis that his daughter was the first one to be bitten by the dog and the dog was rabid. In a frenzy he inquires about this with his wife whose reluctant response irritates him. He visits the nearby hospital Amor de Dios Hospital  and sees the pathetic condition of a rabid victim who is tied to a pillar and is left to die. He meets the controversial physician of the city Abrenuncio de Sa Periera Cao. The doctor Abrenuncio says how bad is rabies and suggests one should either poison the victim or leave him to death since there was no cure for that and human body cannot withstand the plague. This completely disheartens Marquis and he brings the girl back to his house and makes sure she gets good care. Initially the girl comes with Marquis rather acquiescing manner. When he asks the girl whether she was bitten by the dog, the girl lies to her dad saying nothing had happened. Unable to see his daughter turning into a victim he visits Abrenuncio who says do her something which makes her happy since her days are numbered.

Chapter 2:

During the course of next 3 months until March the father and daughter try to bond with each other. Marquis learns to braid her long hair which was pledged to Virgin Mary that it shall not be cut till she gets married. He also tries to teach her some English Mannerisms which the girl would not learn. Abrenuncio visits to see the girl and asks Marquis to wait since there is no signs of Rabies for that little girl yet. Its then the actual war between beliefs and love starts. The father out of desperation to save his daughter seeks help from all sources which nearly takes a deathly toll on both the physical and mental well being of Sierva. The little 12 year old girl will be subjected to various unhealthy superstitious medications which disrupt her entire health making her weak and fragile. When she fights back those healers people brand her as someone who has been possessed by demons. Its then that a Bishop Don Toribio de Caceres y Virtudes offers help to Marquis. The Bishop then suggests that she is being possessed by Demons and she needs to get them exorcised by nuns from Convent in Santa Clara. Marquis religiously follows this advice and thinks he is doing it in best interests for the well being of his daughter. But things turn upside down and Sierva’s life takes complete U Turn.

Chapter 3: 

The girl Sierva is being entertained in the Convent in rather unwelcoming manner. The nuns allocate a lonely devastating cell to her where they lock her. 93 days after the rabid dog bite a girl is being locked in cell where she would spent the rest of her days till death lays its icy hands on her. People start looking at her wierdly and are hugely amused by necklaces around her neck and try to steal all her belongings and when Sierva bites one of them the entire convent turns into hostile environment. She faces huge opposition from entire convent and more and more people come to see her locked up inside the cell. Meanwhile physician Abrenuncio comes to know that the little child is being left to rot in the hell. He reminds Marquis again saying its not fair to leave the kid alone suffer in such a dungeon from where she would not return alive after exorcism.

It is then Father Cayetano Delaura gets a strange dream where Sierva sat at a window eating grapes one by one. Each time when she pulled off the grapes , new ones grew in her lap and she was finishing it slowly as the last grape would mean her death.

grapesWhen Delaura explains this to the Bishop, the Bishop agrees to handover this case to Delaura. It is then the entire story takes twist. Delaura initally visits the cell of Sierva for examination. He sees that the poor girls room was left to decay with remains of food and worn out mattresses. He examines her and prescribes urgently that the girl be nursed urgently and her bruises must be treated gently. He further orders that her cell must be whitewashed and kept clean. At one instance when he tries to communicate to with her she bites him off. Over a period of time she begins to heal and starts treating Delaura as her friend. Delaura insists the convent people to let her mingle with her neighbourhood cell mate Martina Laborde

Chapter 4:

Meanwhile Delaura reads all those forbidden books needed to treat demons inside her and later discovers that the demons are not inside of her… It is inside of souls of people who see her just as a person possessed by Demon and not as a little 12 year old girl. Its during one of the eclipses Delaura meets Abrenuncio and the 2 bond well. Delaura realises day by day he is losing himself for the girl who is bewitched by demonic people inside convent. At one of his visits , he sees Sierva dressed in her best attire and her potrait being painted by an artist. When the painting is done Delaura examines the potrait. It portrays the girl best dressed in her gown with demons flying all around her. Seeing this Delaura feels it is the society which is possessed by the demon and not the poor girl.

demon

Day by day Delaura has sleepless nights as he is unable to convince the Abbess of the convent that the girl is in need of some love and some free non judgemental environment. But the Bishop, the nuns and the entire convent despises his argument. Its then Abrenuncio advises him to visit the Hospital and serve people and stop running behind the girl. Delaura reluctantly obeys them.

Chapter 5:

Eventually after many days he loses his control and rushes to meet Sierva in her cell and the 2 start bonding deeply. During nights, Delaura comes and gives her company throughout the night and returns back to serve people at hospital in the morning. It is during one such visit that he feels Sierva and he are both made for each other. He forgets that he is a 36 year old man and she a 12 year old girl. The 2 find solace in each others arms and eventually confess love. But Delaura never indulges in any sort of physical relationship with her as he still hashopes that the Church shall accept their relationship one day and they can be together forever.

During one of his visits he gets shocked to see the beautiful locks of her hair would be cut short as a part of exorcism rituals to get the demon out of her. She would be tortured to death and she confides with Delaura and begs for death but he manages to convince her that everything would be ok. But Sierva still begs him to take her away from the cell.It is during one such visit, he gets caught and he shall be banned forever from entering the convent. Its during this time the 2 suffer the most.

Delaura would be banned forever from entering and this shall be unknown to Sierva. All she remembers was the last meet where Delaura says he will come in 2 days to meet her and take her away from this hell. Meanwhile in those 2 days Delaura tries his level best to plead beg and convince everyone  including the church. He even testifies the fact that the girl is not rabid and is just a victim of superstitions and false allegations. He tries to convince the fact that demons which reside in the hearts of people cannot be exorcised and tries to change their mindset but in vain. Finally one day, Sierva would be dragged from her cell forcefully and the convent people as a part of exorcism ceremony. The poor fragile girl fights all her strength to escape from the torture. But the nuns shave her head off and make her drink forcefully potions of holy water. After 2-3 days of refusal from Sierva to eat anything she finally sits beside the window watching the snow and keeps eating grapes in her lap one by one…

She tries to recollect the entire journey of her as a little kid in the blocks of the city to her ending up as a witch. She thinks about millions of questions which remain unanswered like Why did Delaura not return and make her rot here. The next day the warder returns to cell for last round of exorcism and finds her dead on her bed with her eyes radiating like new born baby and hair grown like bubbles round her head.

And the book ended

I closed the book and walked away towards my balcony with a heavy heart and found the wailing dog taking refuge in our veranda. As it saw me it started walking away and i comforted it by calling it back to veranda. I could see the relief in the eyes of the dog that someone had left it to die and not bother with stoning or see it with disgust and angst. Why are superstitions sometimes so harsh on poor fragile things on Earth??

 

Posted in Contemplation

The one you cannot have…


Recently I was suffering with Insomnia and while I was bugging my friend Kishore’s head he suggested me a book. And that was “The one you cannot have by Preeti Shenoy”

The-One-You-Cannot-Have-Book-Review

I had stopped reading Indian Literature long back since I felt many a stories are monotonous with the same story line “Boy meets girl irrespective of any place they fall in love, then they romance… they end up on a secret escapade and finally some bad thing emerges which either separates them forever or unites them”

Grrrrr… but the Book The One you cannot have  was not like these genre of books. Instead the backdrop of the story as my friend said was very appealing. I quickly said ok please get me the book and yo… next day I borrowed it from my him.

I started reading the book and within the first 3 chapters I felt its pretty boring as the monotonous longing for a girl and her haunting memories were being explained inch by inch draining my patience. But before I could put it down I just thought why not read the first ten at one stretch and then judge the book by its content. Eventhough the first 3 chapters were boring… as I started engrossing myself to the rest of the pages there was a sudden twist in the plot…

I felt each character was talking to me directly…. Each character was directly related to me in an indirect way. The pain, the flashbacks of each character just immersed me more and more into the book. Basically it’s a very simple plot which I have seen coming true in many lives I have encountered in my life.

Boy and Girl fall in love in their college days and decide to get married….. but fate turns its aggressive face towards the couple and separates them for some time… The girl gets married and moves on with her life while the boy stays right there contemplating each and every free time of his life in the memories of the gone girl… Just when everything seems to fall in place and the guy decides to move on with a new girl in his life he is haunted by the gone girl he loved so much again. The 2 meet each other in their real lives face to face and then the fate presents them with a second chance… But the million dollar question is will the 2 accept the second chance or move on with the current situation as you know that you cannot have some people in life even if you want to….

the one you cannot have pdf

I don’t want to give spoiler alert for the story because I would recommend each and every person to read this novel…who has seen atleast one of the above lines in his/her life…. The novel is slightly different from the typical Indian Romance genre…

It throws light on true love, crush, marriage, relationships, trust, loyalty, friendship, post marital affairs, acceptance and resilience towards turbulent times in one’s marital life etc..

It teaches about some basic values in life like the below

  1. Sometimes life provides us chances to set our lives the way we want but very often we fail to take them into notice and bump into wrong choices. Once wrong choices are made instead of regretting it we should learn from those mistakes and accept it and move on.
  2. First love is always for keeps. There is no substitute for it but that doesn’t mean that all love stories need a happy ending.
  3. Everyone should be given a second chance in life. No matter what mistake they have committed in the past… if the person has a realization of the mistake then there is no harm in giving him a second chance. That doesn’t mean you forgive easily… give some time for yourselves… let things settle down and then you can see what’s actually lying there deep down the abyss of one’s heart
  4. Marriages are not made in heaven nor all marriages are “happily married” prototypes. Things need not be the same inside as much as they are being portrayed outside. The only thing that keeps any marriage alive is the need to adjust and compromise when needed and honest and loyal companionship towards each other.
  5. When your past haunts you… instead of turning on the FLIGHT mode… why not try to FIGHT back against it. Go and face your past even if its ugly. It relieves you of so much of burden and guilt that as I am writing this I am realizing how much I have been building guilt for many things in my life.
  6. Its not sex or the material comforts that keeps the fragile system of Marriages alive. Its takes great investment of time and honest friendship from both the partners in order to keep the fire of marriage alive for years together.
  7. You shall never be in peace with yourself if you have not made peace with the inner turmoils of your heart. If something is bothering you… don’t hesitate to share it infront of a confidante and work out on it instead of grieving over it and multiplying the agony in your life.

This is what I have learnt from this beautiful book by Preeti Shenoy. I sure have become a fan of hers after reading this cute short novella of hers… If you guys have already read this book or if you ever feel like sharing your experiences on this book you are most welcome. This blog post comments section is always open for your opinions on the same…

Thanks Kishore for giving me the right book at right point of my life.

Thanks to you Reader for giving this blog post your precious time…

Good luck with your life….

Posted in change, Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts, friends, Motivation

Top 5 things to make anyone smile!!!


Daily Prompt: Make Me Smile.

If you’re feeling blah, what is the one thing you do that you can count on to put a smile on your face?

Hi Friends!!!

Myself ARK – a blogger who blogs often at WordPress.com who loves to write each and every day.

As i was surfing the WordPress community forums I got to see this nice question posted by one of our daily prompts members.

It asked how would you make someone/yourself smile??

Well, I have seen many tricks and techniques specialized by my great great friends Sharath Pai  @Kadale_Puri @MetiAbhi @BlrVeer @Dreamman2020 @Anushree @Kobbari_Barfi @dabbako @techie_baba etc etc and the list goes on.

But the above mentioned people are the epitomes of cracking jokes, humming some tunes from old retro movies or some unique thing which make even the saddest of the saddest person on this Earth to smile.

1: I was once very much sad at one of my friends and was pretty much depressed for few days consequently.

The one technique given by my friend was to hit the words #funny in Twitter and read some random tweets and just see how funny are few people even though life has been so rough on them.

https://twitter.com/LeiaOfAlderaan_/status/453503439205842944

For more tips please read my complete article here 

 

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

I Believe, I am Indian !!


Daily Prompt: I Believe.

For today’s prompt, tell us three things that you believe in your heart to be true. Tell us three things you believe in your heart to be false.

But forget about what the Daily Prompt guys are asking me to write. I would like to slightly perturb from their description and would like to write something about India. Yes, India – the country from where i belong to, a country which has shaped me.

What is the one thing that comes into your mind when I say “India”?

India Traffic

Indian Gods

top 10 bollywood movies

top 10 quick breakfast india

CHAOS, TRAFFIC, SCORCHING HEAT, DIFFERENT LANGUAGES, DIFFERENT CULTURES, DEVOTION AT ITS HEIGHT, 1000+ GODS, And the List goes on and on and on…

But is that what India is all about??

As most of my blog subscribers are from USA and GERMANY i would love to present on the belief system in India. How deep are they grounded in our veins and how much it actually controls the entire India. Behind this mad crowd, chaos and all the mess lies some of the core values which each Indian abides to.

We treat our tourists/guests to be equivalent to Gods “Athithi Devo Bhavah” meaning a guest = God.

Incredible India tour

We believe in Peace, harmony and try to connect our lives with the Almighty in all possible ways. We believe that each Individual has a “God” or the “Paramatma” inside him who guards us all time saying what is right for us and what’s wrong. India is all about discovering oneself by uniting himself with God amidst the great chaos.

Ashtanga Yoga India

“Indians are the Italians of Asia and vice versa. Every man in both countries is a singer when he is happy, and every woman is a dancer when she walks to the shop at the corner. For them, food is the music inside the body and music is the food inside the heart. Amore or Pyar makes every man a poet, a princess of peasant girl if only for second eyes of man and woman meets.”
Gregory David Roberts, Shantaram

Here is what dance is in India…keralafall-36AparnaRamaswamyARTSPIX_Bageshree_2286shobana

Here is how one can get lost amidst the chaos in India. Yoga- 5000 Years old discipline which has remedies for almost 90% diseases in world and helps in discovering how flexible you can mould yourself to unite your soul into the Almighty.

89742-Yoga+picture+quotes

India is not about different states. It is about cultures melted into one another and creating a neat blanket of fraternity. India makes you believe in a colorful life full of possibilities and dreams. It may not be as advanced as USA UK JAPAN but is unique in its own way. Its culture is unparalleled with any other culture because Hindus, Muslims, Christians all are treated equally here without any hatred. Ofcourse there are some riots and some disturbing conditions prevailing in some parts of the Country. There are many gaps between developing a fully advanced India but it has not come in the way of living a peaceful and independent life for millions of people. India believes in freedom and helps each individual to pursue what his heart really wants to. Its not just Bollywood, Sonia Gandhi, Narendra Modi and Corruption. Its much more than that.

Its a place to be born again on Earth.

INDIA_09

Its a place to explore yourself and let go of all worries

1622158_10152270258361368_1600931240_n

Its a place where unlimited colors come together as Holi (a festival of colors in India) and unite people across the Country

India during Holi Festival
India during Holi Festival

India is a place where people bleed in Blue for Cricket.

Incredible_India-Republic_Day-501_big

India is a place where wedding is not just an exchange of 2 rings and vows. But its wedding of 2 families who connect with each other and stand by the couple through thick and thin always. The 2 families unite as one and accept each others cultures happily

1373804902weddingspartiessangeetsangeet-weddingtravelers

Indian Bride
Indian Bride

Indians believe in Bollywood. They eat, pray, sleep bollywood. Movies still rule the hearts of Millions of Indians.

Shah Rukh Khan signing autographs for his fans
Shah Rukh Khan signing autographs for his fans
Amitabh Bacchan and his fans
Amitabh Bacchan and his fans
3 legends of Indian Cinema. Dilip Kumar, Amitabh Bacchan and Shah Rukh Khan
3 legends of Indian Cinema. Dilip Kumar, Amitabh Bacchan and Shah Rukh Khan

India is indeed a place to believe that yes there is a place on Earth where you can rediscover your soul back again. Get mad in the crowdy streets again and enjoy yourselves amongst the frenzy. Not all days are to be plain and peaceful. There has to be a little chaos, a little madness in order to enjoy life. What say friends?

536964_379019555472390_1138094887_n

I hope you enjoyed this post as much as i am enjoying writing this post.

Please feel free to express your opinion here. I would really love to read your views on India.

Lots of love,

ARK

Posted in Contemplation

Apology accepted…


What do you do when someone apologises to you?

  1. Do you easily forgive and forget?
  2. Do you forgive and then never forget that?

I fall under the second category. I forgive people very easily but never forget what they have done to me.

Apologies can grant forgivance but they cannot take back the pain. After series of backstabbing and betrayals i have become very cold to all the apologies in my life. Because they never heal my pain. They only add lessons in my life and make me more alone.

The only reason why i feel that some apologies are incompetent because they are nothing but an array of the same age old letters like “stop being sad” “please dont go away” “i am sorry” which are pretty much same.

If you really want to apologise something to your dearest person … please stop begging for forgivance and start taking initiative to heal their pain. ACTIONS SPEAK BETTER THAN WORDS.

Give some warmth and love to your dear ones and try to listen to them instead of being very cold to them. Give them some more respect. Man does not need apologies when his trust has been broken. All he needs is some love and respect back again.

Stand by your friends when they need them and don’t abandon them. IF YOU DON’T STAND UP FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR EVERYTHING.

Give them some quality time instead of your mere sorrys and poems. Who needs your beautiful words when you have already defined your limitations of being a true friend.

When someone offers you a hand in help make sure that you also offer them a hand when they need you.

Try to read between the lines instead of assuming that your friend is OK.

Because no matter how close you are to your friend, how genuinely you apologise to someone ….

THERE’S ALWAYS MORE THAN WHAT MEETS THE EYE.

My sincere words who agree to my idealogy is “Stop welcoming everyone to your heart. If you welcome them make sure they are free to walk away by giving you loads of lessons and tons of pain”

EITHER WAYS YOU ARE THE ONE WHO WILL BENEFIT.

 

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

Your Life, the Book


Daily Prompt: Your Life, the Book.

Hi everybody… Hope your weekend is going very great!!! If not, then please don’t get disheartened…you can cheer yourself up saying “Tomorrow is Sunday anyways!!!”

Ok coming back to the point… today the daily prompt guys are telling that whom would we choose to become our biographer…

At the first point … let me first understand what is the point in writing biography  of a great nobody like me…? Everyday when i get up sometimes… i repeat sometimes….. i remember words of Great People ringing in my ears like some siren. Out of all those words the below mentioned quote rings in my ears sometimes

This quote is taken from famous speech by Dr. A.P.J Abdul Kalam the former President of India

He said that

What would you like to be remembered for?
….
…..
……
You have to evolve yourself and shape your life. You should write it on a page…
That page maybe a very important page in the book of human history.

And you will be remembered for creating that one page in the history of the Nation-
whether that one page is the page of invention, the page of innovation or the page of discovery or the page of creating a societal change or a page of removing the poverty or the page of fighting injustice or…..

As soon as i think of this i just close my eyes and contemplate on the importance of that one page …. and the magnitude of difference it can bring into lives of others.

Right at this point of time i feel very “confused” and let my fear get controlled by my imagination. And i imagine as if i have created that one page in history.

Ask me what ? Reply is “Becoming a great nobody who is known to everybody…” When i say great nobody i mean that I don’t want myself to be portrayed as a very genius or some extra terrestrial organism… i only want people to understand the values which i stand for in my life… be it my rebellious nature or my depressed views on certain aspects of life..

I would like the following 2 persons to truly portray me as i am in real world …whatsover may be the views … i would strongly recommend these 2 guys to be my biographers.

#1 and #2
That is my Guru of blogging “Supreet” and my close friend “Veerender”

Now why Supreet and Veer? I say why not Supreet and Veer

Veer came in my life at a very right point of time when i was a complete LOSER in life….my dad had expired, my grades had gone low, my social life was devastated, my family life was painful…it was only he who stood beside me and showed me “Its now or never” attitude. He made me face all the problems in my life saying “You can do it!!” and helped me overcome my major obstacles in life. So he can be the best person to portray my best and worst part of my life very well.

Sup came in my life as a miracle. It was total unexpected thing for me and Sup showed me a perfect example of “What is 10/10 in life” 10/10 is none other than he himself. He has been my mentor and my close friend in office and has seen my undergoing my worst part of my life at office. He has always made me understand what does the word “PRIORITY” mean in life… and how to set them.

He is a wonderful blogger who writes honeypunch words and makes readers go gaga throughout our Company…adding to this he is a very honest critic in judging things…So he can be the best person to narrate my story to others in a way it touches lives of others.

Thanks Veer and Thanks Supreet for making me reach here….Thanks for your support and constant encouragement without which i would have been a LOSER till now…

I hope you enjoyed reading my post.

Love you all,
ARK

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts, Others

21st Century Citizen


Daily Prompt: 21st Century Citizen.

Hello guys,

After a long time again I am back with some blog post. Thanks for the prompt response of Daily Prompt guys who help me a lot by providing some interesting topics daily.

Today’s topic says “21st Century Citizen”

Along with that they have given a set of questions like…

Do you belong in this day and age?

The answer is YES and NO both…Sometimes i seriously feel i do not belong to this age when i see people back biting against each other and turning their minds into workshops of witch crafts… or maybe taking some unknown pleasure while hurting/rebuking others feelings…

Yet when i see the power of human intelligence used in solving some complex problems of the World like AIDS, Cancer, TB, Malaria etc i feel i am so lucky to be born in this era.
Whenever i see people suffering from social problems like Racism, Poverty, Illiteracy, Teen Pregnancy, Drug Abuse, Pollution etc i sometimes feel why am i here? But at the same time some great people try to find solutions for these and are doing a tremendous amount of good work to fight against these Problems which are very very huge in magnitude as compared to the previous eras. Thanks to  people like these

bill_gates-abortion    72795_10151491451969192_813503488_n

warren_buffett_fortune_magazine

So the next question is …..

Do you feel comfortable being a citizen of the 21st-century?

Yes, I am comfortable being a citizen of the 21st Century because this century teaches us to be ADAPTABLE to all the circumstances. Even if you wish or do not wish… adaptability is one such thing which has to be learnt by each and every individual in his lifetime.

This thing was long predicted by Charles Darwin.

tumblr_lz19ekdxIQ1r5eau1o1_500

Every part of the story has 2 shades in it. One , the brighter side and the other is the darker side… Why is that we always brood over the darker side?? Why is that we “by default” tend to think the world is bad (including me). Because its because of our perceptions towards the world.
We tend to think that the world today is very bad. We have lost all the hopes that our ancestors had on this world partly due to the day to day events that we see in Newspapers and Media or due to few bitter experiences in life.

So here i would like to share a few things that i do everyday just to keep myself Positive amidst all the bad things that tend to happen in our day to day lives. Trust me guys… i am not at all exaggerating anything here… all the things are pretty simple yet we often neglect them thinking “Come on… i am too busy to think of these things”

The first thing i do every morning is not to open the newspaper … yeah you heard it right… Its been 6 months i have stopped reading newspaper early in the morning…
and i do have strong reasons for it.
One, Each day you cannot expect something like “thousand lives saved due to this vaccine” or “Mr. so and so is all set to release #invention for the betterment of so many people” or even better “Mr. XYZ … who was a mess to society was finally jailed forever” … Instead you find news like “3 year old raped by 40 year old guy who unfortunately is her father!!!” or “Woman killed and chopped off near so and so Road … killers missing !!!” or even worse “Reputed Politician caught in a sex scandal with a famous social media activist!!!” I mean early in the morning itself there is the MURDER of the word HOPE.

And man can survive without food but not without HOPE. It is an essential ingredient in one’s life.

102437

Secondly i strongly believe in doing things which i love everyday.

fullsize-holstee-manifesto

No matter how much ever busy i am i make it a habit to complete things which i love… i never go off to sleep without reading atleast a page from any book. I cannot call myself as a voracious reader but yeah i make sure i read daily. I love seeing beauty in all the small things in life….so i make sure that i never let those small moments that i spend with my friends goes off waste by doing some nonsense chit chat. Instead i prefer to stay in a group where people make me happy all the time.

Now please see this…

Secondly,

Listen to some peaceful music each day whenever you feel things are getting out of control. Example see the below video. You get engrossed by the music atleast for 5 seconds and you will know what’s the power of Music in your lives

The lyrics of the following video can be seen here http://breadsite.org/lyrics/570.htm

Music indeed soothes all the pain and hard feelings from your heart and energizes you for the rest of the day. So instead of opening the newspaper you can listen to some good music everyday before you dig your heads and yell “WTF”

Third , whenever i feel my expectations are not met. I… just like any other abnormal human being….get wild… i sulk, i cry, i shout but end of the day when i watch some stuff like this … i feel “Thank God !!! I am so lucky”

Also when i see that i am stuck with some mental blockage thinking this thing cannot be done from me… I always remember this video…

So each day whenever i feel World is not helping me to pursue my dreams i keep remembering myself that “Nothing is impossible” and try to be optimist.

Friends i may not be some great inspirational source to you. But i would like to conclude this piece of post by saying the following things:

We all tend to be vulnerable at some point of time in our lives but its upto us how we learn lessons from those moments and grow. 21st Century teaches us to adapt ourselves in a world where imbalance is coexisting with the balance and there is lots of chaos and disturbance everywhere. But amidst all these confusion and fury we need to find a niche for ourselves so that we can exist the remaining days of our lives peacefully. After all  what’s the point of surviving a life without mental peace??

I hope you enjoyed reading my post.

Thanks for reading my post and you are welcome to pen down your thoughts on the same by commenting on my post.

Love you all,
ARK

Posted in change, Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

Journey to the world of Blogging


Daily Prompt: Journey.

Hi Everybody… After a long time again i have woke up from deep sleep and am upto responding to one of the Daily Prompts… 

Today the topic is “JOURNEY”

First of all this time i was blank… so as to decide what would be my topic ???

So i quickly went thru some beautiful blogs and started cruising thru their little world of imagination…. Initially i was slow in reading some blogs… but later on i became so engrossed in my blog surfing that i entirely forgot i had some 40 mails in my office mailbox which had to be replied ASAP…

I then quickly noted down what i want to write in a rough book and started my office work… When i finally finished off my office work all i found was the time was up… It was time to go home and fall flat on the bed…

But instead i thought i would complete this small piece of my journey in WordPress.com…

I am going to narrate you my journey of 2000+ miles in the world of blogging under the name “ambikarani.wordpress.com”

Date:  November 26, 2009

For the first time i read the definition of WEBLOG in Wikipedia. It struck a chord in my heart + mind and created ripples of imagination… I have always been a very Alice kinda lady who believes in imagining the most craziest and wierdest stuffs in this world. So, i keep writing all my feelings and opinions in a diary… The very word “blog” gave me a niche to express my views to thousands of people across the world. All your opinions / feelings that you wanna share is just a click away from you… isn’t it amazing?

Some great person once said

“IDEAS are EASY….

IMPLEMENTATION is HARD”

How would i know where to start blogging ? How to share and spread word? It was like i had a magic wand in my hand in the form of Google but i have no power to use it efficiently.

Thanks to Blogger.com which helped me create my first blog in the year 2009. With much enthusiasm i wrote my first post and left it untouched for years!!! Yes, you read it right “Years”. I kept on giving lame excuses to myself saying “No time to write”, “No ideas to write” etc etc…

All the lame excuses came to an end when i got a job in an IT Company where you are supposed to get your heads glued infront of the PC all the time (atleast for 8.5 hours). When you are bound to sit at one place irrespective of your dislikes/likes you find 101 ways to distract yourself. And one amongst those Mission 101 was Blogging. That’s how i started my first blog in WordPress.com on the day “January 3rd , 2013”

I resolved that day that i am not gonna end this blog like the blogger one… I am gonna nourish it regularly with my feelings and grow along with other people who do some serious blogging all the time. Thanks to the following people who stood as pillars to my blogging skills.

My all time good friend in Blogsphere – http://50yearproject.wordpress.com/

My office colleague + best well wisher + best friend – http://theonlysup.wordpress.com/

The intense writer one and only Sakshi – http://cruisingthroughmylife.wordpress.com/

My First follower – http://dainasbook.com/

My inspiration for blogging daily – http://joeowensblog.wordpress.com/

My best buddy here “Mike” who always motivates me thru his honest comments – http://joeowensblog.wordpress.com/

My one and only teacher for Photography – http://xavigeis.wordpress.com/

Thanks a zillion for all you people who helped me reach here….

When i initially started i never expected that my blogs would be read by people across the world… Daina was the first one who followed my blog. Thanks sweetie for giving me huge support thru your first click on my blog’s FOLLOW button.

Huge heartfelt thanks to all the sincere WordPress readers who evaluate my blogging regularly and help me achieve many more miles in this vast Blogsphere.

I am aiming at writing some good fictional book someday before i retire from this world forever. Hope these daily doses of fun filled prompts help me in achieving it soon…

Thanks for reading my post.

Love you all,

ARK

Posted in Contemplation

6 of Nature’s Loneliest Animals Looking for Love


6 of Nature’s Loneliest Animals Looking for Love.

Hi Guys,

I still remember what Mother Teresa once said about LOVE…

The quote goes like this..

The biggest disease that has afflicted the word is not CANCER/AIDS…

but its the lack of LOVE

Here i present to you 6 of those beautiful creatures which are on verge of extinction and death because of Loneliness…

We say “Humans are known for their ingenuity…” but is it possible for any of us to bring back their love… How much ever man progresses in his life there are some things which we can never compensate to Mother Earth.

I found the article worth reading…

I hope you too would find it interesting.

Please let me know your views on the same..

Lots of love,

ARK

 

 

Posted in change, Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

Your Time to Shine


Daily Prompt: Your Time to Shine.

The best quote on Mornings goes like this “Lose an hour in the morning, and you will be all day hunting for it. ” 

Now after having read that I sit back and think about the truth hidden behind this statement.

Before shifting to my new home i used to daily get up at 5 am and finish off all my ablutions etc and used to practice yoga for almost 1.5 hours daily.  I shifted to my new house recently thinking a house near to my office would leave me with more time for myself and will give me more time for myself. But i was totally wrong.

The office is quite near now… but my good habits have gone for a toss since 3 weeks…. Its almost a month I haven’t practiced proper peaceful Yoga…

Whatever maybe the reasons i think its high time that i start all my golden habits again so that i can concentrate more on my body…

I tried experimenting a lot with my timings… like how shall it be if i am a night owl? i try to come office early each day and only end up in staying late… and the moment i come home i am all tired/ hooked up with various to-do’s leaving no time for daily meditation.

Ahhhhhh….. Lack of organisation in life sometimes sucks. It really leaves us in a mess and makes life more tangled. 😦

Being a night owl only made me more sleepy in the day and made me realize how badly i miss those early mornings…

I need to find some or the other way thru which i can regain all the organisation that my life had before 3 weeks. Some famous person once said “Its alright to be imperfect in many a things of our life…. because you cant be perfect all the time nor your requirements in life” I somehow cannot adopt this mentality at all.

Probably because i believe Continuity in anything is the ultimate key to achieve long term success. Maybe i am wrong.. but i am what i am…

Thanks for reading my post… and please wish me Good Luck to start over again.

Have a good day guys….

Lots of love,

ARK

 

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, I love animals more than Humans, LOVE, Music and Life

This thing called Love…


first

I often hear people saying “Love is life” “Love is God” etc etc… but in my life I have always experienced only one form of love…. i.e unrequited love. Since 23 years… i am facing the same situation… Now all i believe is only in unconditional love. And must say Thanks to the following people who make my life so beautiful

1. Early morning when i visit my work place …. the beautiful marigold flowers and the cold dew on them… When i touch their tender buds which are chilled in the nights cold… Its such a joy… totally inexplicable…          mari

2. The Tulsi Plant outside my home…. which always awaits when will i water it… Poor thing… never ever withers away… Whenever i see it promptly swaying to the mild breeze i feel sorry for it as i cannot take care of it 24×7… due to my ofc hours

tulsi (1)

3. The lonely dog which sits near my veranda…. it expects nothing from me except a small pat on its head and few pieces of biscuits…

lonely

4. The trees in my office and the rocks near them…. whenever i sit under a tree on a cold rock all my emptiness dissolves and i am filled with a strange bliss that i am so happy.

5. The 12th floor …. where i work… from where i can see the whole of Sarjapura campus… at 6.30 am in the morning….sipping hot steamy cup of coffee and the bright sun entering straight from the Windows… Its such a rare luxury i feel every time when this happens with me…

mug

6. The loneliness which fills my heart all the time leaving no space for other weird thoughts… some say Loneliness is very bad…. But i find it as a way to live ….. because when you are happy with yourself you will never crave for others love…

Thanks to the Almighty for filling my life with such unconditional happy moments…and always making me believe in this thing called LOVE… which need not be the same love as depicted in Movies nor as percieved by a common layman…god

lifeThis thing called LOVE is so complicated to explain… yet so inevitable in life…

This thing called LOVE makes my day special everyday no matter how much rotten people make it by hurting me sometimes…

This thing called LOVE makes me trust this world each day saying “The World is filled with good things everyday… what if we encounter bad people….. They are the ones who make good people as good…. or else what would be the difference between Good and Bad…”beauty

This thing called LOVE makes me look the brighter side of all things and makes me die peacefully someday…look-on-the-bright-side-of-life-

Thanks a lot for reading my opinion on this thing called LOVE…

Lots of love to you all,

ARK

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life, I love animals more than Humans, LOVE, Music and Life

Will You Still Need Me, When I’m 64


Will You Still Need Me, When I’m 64.

The famous song sung by Beatles reveals the fact that True love is something which defies age limit/obstacles in life. It makes us stay together no matter whether we are 14 or 34 or 64.

Today we hardly see such true love instances in this fast paced technologically advanced world. Sometimes i feel there is no place for true human relationships….. Its all something to be seen and lived only in Shakespearean/Nicholas Sparks/ Yash Raj Films…..

My only question is what would people do without having lived a lovable life… without having a deep truthful relationship with their loved ones….. Do they ever regret for not having such simple yet costly pleasures in life? I doubt….

Just when i was almost losing hopes on this thing called TRUE LOVE… Thanks to Broken Light: A Photography Collective for sharing AJ Kings’ Photo taken during one of her Photographic Excursions to Portsmouth.

Thanks a lot for reading my pressed post.

Love you all,

ARK

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life, Others

Flag Book


Considering the Flag Book.

Hi People,

I found this article interesting. Hope so you too will find it interesting.

Thanks for stopping by.

Love you all,

ARK

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life, Theatre

International Puppet Festival in India


International Puppet Festival in India.

How many Indians have been to this Festival?

Puppet Show- Such a creative form of art is being let into ruins. A very disappointing thing for all Indians.

 

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life, friends

Kallara Santheya Nodrappo


Kallara Santheya Nodrappo.

Yet another post from IT Kannadigas on Kannada and its situation in Bangalore. Very funny and filled with facts.

Thanks for stopping by,

Love you all lot,

ARK

 

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, friends, LOVE, Music and Life, Others

World’s Most Romantic Flower Fields


The Earth laughs in flowers- Ralph Waldo Emerson

earth-laughs-in-flowers

Such is the beauty of flowers. They are the most beautiful means to express one’s feelings. Their fragrance and color adds ambience to any environment they go… Such is the beauty of flowers. Flowers may not last for long time but their memories stay in our hearts forever. They act like connectors to Heaven…. the moment you see them you are filled with inexplicable positivity. In many parts of the world flowers are used as a main ingredient during worship of Gods. In some parts of the world they are seen as symbols of prosperity.

In my own office i see the Marigold flowers all lined up in series gleaming brightly in the Sun and dancing for the mild breeze. Ah! What a beauty it is to see such a thing daily…. Today i thought of sharing some pictures of World’s Most Romantic Flower Fields with you guys. I hope you too will enjoy seeing them

Continue reading “World’s Most Romantic Flower Fields”

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life, friends, I love animals more than Humans, LOVE

R.I.P. James Dean


Obituary for James Dean and Open Letter to Jet Airways and the Delhi we Love.

Gone baby gone...

Hai Friends,

As i was surfing thru WordPress top posts i got this blog from WILD AT HEART. I was really moved by the story of how a cute cuddly cat which was left for care by Jet Airways was killed due to the negligence of Jet Airways and how inhumanely they treated the pet and the owner after the “cat”astrophe….

Be it a cat/dog/cow/lizard whatever… pets are pets… infact pets make us more Human in this selfish world. One can never express how it feels when their beloved pets are churned to death in the hands of cruel people  in this case the JET AIRWAYS

My Question is why don’t people ever have some sympathy towards these lovely creatures …. why do they mock at their death and prevent their owners from expressing their condolence on the loss of their pets.

I am very saddened by reading the death of James Dean (beloved pet of Preeti). Rest in peace James Dean… You always stay in our hearts as  a cute kitty forever.

Thanks a lot for reading my post.

Love you all,

ARK

 

 

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation

Phil Pills for the day by Jim Valvano


My Mission Statement/New Personal Philosophy.

Hello Friends….

I found few lines from this post very useful before starting my busy schedule at office…. So instead of opening my Outlook 2007 I started with some few blogs ….

I am very happy to share few blogs with you today…

Thanks a lot for stopping by

Love you all,

ARK

 

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, friends, Music and Life

The best “About Me” Page i have read so far


About me.

Since the day I have entered into Blogging i haven’t seen an About Page which is a perfect combo of Desi Daaru and Angrezi Cocktail sprinkled with lots of Humor all thru the Page…

Meet Mr. Samson Joseph… The Proud Owner of TRIPPING ON LIFE blog …. only at WordPress.com

Thanks a lot for reading my post..

Love you all…

ARK

 

 

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life, friends

Divine Wonderland of Karnataka


Dharmasthala- Wonderland of Karnataka..

Check this post by Adarsha A to view picturesque view of one of the most famous yet not known Temple of IndiaSri Dharmasthala Manjunatha Swamy Temple.

net

Check out all the information about this amazing place and take a virtual dip in the holy river waters and feel the divinity in the air …. also experience the various Charitable Trusts which has given lots of help in the upliftment of the poor and the destitutes in the society.

Thanks for reading my post

Lots of Love,

ARK

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts

But this is my dream. I’ll decide where it goes from here….


Daily Prompt: Silver Screen. Hai friends… How are you all? Sorry for not posting anything since few days as I was fully lost in my wonderland. And now Daily Prompt Guys have made me write again. They have come up with some nice topic called SILVER SCREEN in which the theme says

Take a quote from your favorite movie — there’s the title of your post. Now, write!

Coming back to the theme…

My Favorite Movie(s) : Alice in Wonderland, Batman

OFFICIAL-cinema-Poster-alice-in-wonderland-2009-9603957-1440-720 the-dark-knight_6cf06b4a

Continue reading “But this is my dream. I’ll decide where it goes from here….”

Posted in Compiled Articles, Contemplation, Daily Life

Being defeated is often a temporary condition. Giving up is permanent


Art-of-Learning.

Do you run into difficulty, get into trouble or have problems almost every day? Have you ever wondered why things don’t always work out the way you’d like them to?

Here are just some reasons why life isn’t always easy and trouble free.”

Sakshi’s blog teaches you new concepts in the name of Art Of Learning… Trust me guys its awesome.

Posted in Contemplation, Steve Jobs Project

I love you Steve – 5


Hai Friends,

Welcome to yet another part of Steve Jobs’ Series “I love you Steve” – Excerpts from his autobiography.

In this post you shall get to know how Steve was abandoned by his biological parents and adopted by Jobs family.

CHILDHOOD : ABANDONED & CHOSEN

The Story of Adoption:

Paul Jobs (who adopted Steve Jobs) after retiring from Coast Guard was in search of a soul mate. He met Clara and they fell in love in the same year 1946 and got married. Their marriage was a real “ideal marriage” types because it lasted for almost 40 years. Paul was a very calm and composed person unlike his alcoholic and abusive father.

Clara came to New Jersey after they were forced to flee from Turks in Armenia. She was already married to a man and she did not disclose this to Paul as her husband was dead in war. She wanted to start a fresh life with Paul because both of them were vexed up from the War Situation. All they now wanted was to settle down, raise a family and lead a less eventful life.

Clara wanted children but was suffering from a strange problem called as ectopic pregnancy. After 9 years of their marriage they finally decided that they must adopt a child.

Here Joanne Schiebele (biological mother of Steve) was from a family where her father was very strict and was against inter-community marriage. In-spite of all these Joanne fell for Abdulfattah Jandali, a Muslim teaching assistant from Syria. Jandali was a Political Science degree holder.

In 1954, Joanne went with Jandali and spent 2 months vacation in Homs. When she returned from Homs she discovered that she was pregnant and they both were just 23 by then. So they decided not to get married and Joanne’s father threatened her that he will be disowning her from his property if she married Jandali. Abortion was also not a good option. So in the year 1955, Joanne travelled to San Francisco and gave birth to a baby boy and put him up for adoption.

She had put-forth a condition in-front of the doctors that the baby will be adopted only by educated parents. But on Feb 24, 1955 Jobs was adopted by Paul and Clara (both were not from very educated backgrounds) and they named him as

STEVEN PAUL JOBS

What happened next? How Joanne agreed for the adoption? Catch it in the next post… Thanks for reading my post guys….

quotes_from_steve_jobs_06

Posted in change, Contemplation, Daily Life, Daily Prompts, Music and Life

A girl doesn’t need anyone who doesn’t need her


Hai Friends…

Its 00.00 hrs according to Indian Standard Time and i am writing this post with a broken heart. The nostalgic moments come alive and i feel totally alone in this wide weird world.

So guys… coming back to the title of the blog…

 "A girl doesn't need anyone who doesn't need her- Marilyn Monroe"

may

caught my attention just now when i was surfing Google. I really agree with each and  every word of this sentence mainly because of its relevance in today’s practical life.

People today have become so selfish that they don’t even bother whether the person who helped them a lot during their distress is standing now alone in a lonely planet without any help from anyone. How could they just turn a blind-eye towards others?

Every day they scar others face with knives of hatred, avoidance, arrogance, scheming, back stabbing above all making them feel bad with their evergreen capacity of pissing the other person’s mood off with their so called “silly things”. These silly things include the following

1. acting a big dumb hypocrite
2. acting very self centered
3. acting super super dumb when the other person is in desperate need

I experience this each day and at the end of the day i feel

"I have won over the battle of Good v/s Evil and pat myself saying 
I am being strong by not uttering a single word against them and 
resisting all those negative treatments with my hard core silence"

Sometimes i feel what Marilyn Monroe is so so right. These days i have learnt how not to care for these people in my life. I have learnt that i should not let these people piss my mood off because if i get disturbed by their words its as simple as stating the fact that

"Other people can piss your mood off just like some SWITCH and
 you are some puppet in their hands "

Instead what you can do is do is a self analysis of your own behavior and think and rethink what is the mistake from your side…. And hopefully if your inner subconscious answers that you are right then Friends you can say to yourself that

"I don't need them in my life... All i now wanna do is 
move on with loads of lessons taught by them and 
be optimistic in life instead of re-thinking it each 
and every moment and hurting yourself more and more each second"

When this case applies for a girl i feel ladies can simply try to take the first step towards becoming more and more strong in their lives and not giving a damn for those people who cannot stand your happiness. They are not even worth of having a place in your beautiful mind. All you can do is move on and forget them as soon as possible….

Thanks a lot friends for reading my depressive post…

Lots of love to you all,

ARK

Posted in Contemplation, Daily Prompts, friends, LOVE

An ode to my best friend.


Dearest Friend,

A very happy morning to you!!!!

joyjoyjoy

I wish i could have been the invisible cool breeze that would touch your face and make you feel more happy with the rising sun….

Camp

I wish i could manage to borrow some Magical Wand from Harry Potter’s Hogwarts and erase off all the painful memories from your life……

55bfe8fd01d4ed3c23563b48a18ee9f8

I wish i could give you off all my Happy Moments for you happily and fill your life with smiles… and only smiles…..

happy-friends

I confess before you for saying all those harshful words that scarred your day yesterday………

confess_1

I regret now… for hurting you so much by asking those things which you always avoided from me…..

Oh friend!!!! Break your silence before i break my head thinking “What went wrong from my end???”

how

Don’t leave me alone……… without an answer…because your silence is killing me and making me feel secluded from the rest of the world….

Come back again…. I promise… you shall relive the same freshness of our friendship again….

cd

Ending it with high hopes of your returning back……….

ARK