Take That Half An Hour Away From Your Day For Yourself


We all pretend to be super busy whole day. We let days slip by right in front of us, only to regret it later “Wish I had started back then”.

But guess what, you can take control over your destiny. All you need is that decent thirty minutes of break wherein you forget everything else and just focus on who you want to be, and what you want to do.

A careful and honest evaluation of one’s own day reveals lot of flaws within our own routines.

I used to procrastinate a lot. I used to constantly forget my inner GPS and stray away from my personal and professional goals.
Thanks to Youtube, I stumbled across this beautiful video by Jay Shetty and it taught me a simple mechanism. The 30 min rule!

I tried this method constantly for two weeks and here is my obeservation:

  1. I feel much more accomplished at the end of the day.
  2. I am able to complete more tasks from my to-do list.
  3. Mind is very uncluttered.
  4. I don’t feel the loss of enthusiasm at my workplace anymore.
  5. It has taught me the energy vampires that used to suck the majority of my time from my daily routine.

I request all of you to go through the video once and try the thirty-minutes rule in your daily life.

“Your future is created by what you do today, not tomorrow”

Choose your time wisely and live your life more productively.

Lots of love,
ARK

#127 – 10 Best Moves That Changed My Life Forever


Here are the top 10 moves that I started adapting over the few years which changed my life for good.

  1. Never announce your moves before you make them. Keep it to yourself and journal it for your daily reference.
  2. Save for today.
  3. Plan for retirement in your early 25’s
  4. Decrease your dependency towards depreciating assets and plan your finances carefully.
  5. Always have emergency funds at your disposal. If you are wondering how much should I have in my emergency fund now, calculate it here.
  6. Distance yourself from people who no longer fuel your ambitions. Read how you can achieve it here.
  7. Take good care of your body by exercising daily. Your body will thank you later. These seven minute workouts are really going to help you begin the journey.
  8. Prioritize your life first. Declutter rest everything from your life. Don’t know where to start? Here are some simple and effective ways to begin with.
  9. Do not burn your opportunities for temporary indulgements in things which serve no purpose a year later. Always apply the 1-3-5 rule when in confusion.
  10. Start reading a book every day. It is always hard in the beginning but you will love reading once you start embracing it as your daily routine. ‘

What are the best moves in your life?

#125 – Why Should You Switch Your Job Atleast Once In Your Lifetime?


P.S. This post is purely written based on my opinion and experience. So, please do not hold me responsible for your mood swings after reading the article.

November 30, 2017, will always remain one of the most memorable moments in my life. Primarily because for the first time I decided enough is enough and tried to pull plugs off my big MNC job and hunt for something else in the market. My mom said “I was insane” but never mind, I have learned a good deal of things during my 60 days notice period.

It all started with this Instagram post (please read the caption) which I composed during my commute to office:

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My favourite question for myself is always WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU WERE NOT AFRAID OF ANYTHING. 😁 Most of the times, this is how I jump and take a leap of faith. Yesterday someone asked me in office asked me how is it that you never give a fuck to anyone. My simple answer is I always ask myself this question. Panic and anxiety will never take you anywhere. The moment you understand who you are truly from inside you overcome most of the bullshit that u keep fooling yourself daily. Somebody's perception about you will never change the fact that you are invincible. People might label u with hundred different names. But how much of it actually matters. If someone calls you lazy, unorganised, mediocre let them be… Critics are born to criticize. You do your work with 100% honesty and leave the rest to the Universe. If something is bound to happen it will. Else fuck it. 😁 #iphone #photooftheday PC : @impatient_biker + @arpith_rai

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Sometimes people say “Believe you can and you’re halfway there”.  

But, just like all the modern applications on Android, your mind asks for 2 step authentication.

  1. Do you really wanna resign this job? *question I asked myself*
  2. Hey dude, I am going to put down my papers. What say? *question I asked my best friend Anudeep*

For the second question, a quick call to Anudeep was sufficient to make me hit the resign button. (I can’t thank you enough for this motivation)

So why the fuck did I decide to resign after 6 years of stint in the same comfort zone?

Here’s the sequence of events which kept happening with me for around three long years.

  1. My daily office hours would start with a cup of coffee and end with several cups of caffeine in order to keep myself awake.
  2. You have literally nobody to look up to and learn.
  3. You stop hanging around with friends and start spending more time on long walks around the office figuring out how to get out of this place.
  4. You no longer wake up early with enthusiasm.
  5. You are just task driven animal waiting for a paycheck at the end of the month.
  6. You are desperate for a change but do not know how to start and where.
  7. You try moving around inside the same old stagnant workplace looking out for internal job postings but end up settling down for something the same.

And then comes the final push… “A nudge which makes you quit all this bull shit. ”

That’s it. With no second thought in my mind, I resolved for once that this large MNC ain’t serving me any good. The comfort zone had become too complicated for me to figure it out. Before I could lose my sanity, the two month notice period served me as a mirror of how much people are capable of hurting you, if given a chance. Right from passive reinforcement to negative brainwashing, I was subjected to all of that in the name of “Employee Retaining”.

There were people who genuinely wished I should rethink my decision. And then there were people who wanted me to stay just because their lives would be smooth as butter in the coming few months. There were people who played a very nice game of creating negative perceptions about me (You guys are going to get a nice post dedicated to you, relax). And then there were people who took me out for long walks and encouraged me to not come under any pressure.

Amidst all these things, the best decision I ever took was to stick to my decision and never dilly-dally. Salary was not a constraint anymore. Because I had come to terms that “Work satisfaction is more important than anything else”. A lot of offers came which offered me a better pay than the current company but they once again lacked the freshness in them. And finally, I ended up signing up for a startup. A place where I am learning so many things each day and growing.

I don’t say that MNC’s are toxic places to work because the first three years of my life in the same MNC were the best. But as and when you move up the ladder, you start seeing something like this.

You start seeing who your leaders are and what are their true psychotic features up close.

“Except true work, you can see rest everything happening”

Quitting a job which offers you comfort, job security is sometimes a too big risk. But if we keep seeing the below cartoon daily, we will very soon realize what is ultimately going wrong in all our lives. We are too afraid to get out of our comfort zones.

The 60 days notice period helped me utilize the time efficiently by reading about new trends in my domain.

At the same time, I have something to say for those who come to MNC’s from outside this large MNC ecosystem. If you are someone who is reading this blog post, is currently working in a startup and wants to move into a large corporation, then please read this article and save humanity.

Working in a start up makes you so agile and sharp that, once you go into an organization where to even get a pencil you need 2 business days from the facilities department, you are bound to get upset with the process and people around you. You cannot expect everyone to nimble along with you at your pace.

Your aggressive tactics of getting things done will never be appreciated. Instead, your patience and levels of tolerating bullshit will be welcomed. The learning curve will be very slow as compared to startups.

If you are joining an MNC from a startup, please please please remember that you are an alien to that environment and not the employees working there. So, stop feeling very proud of the new culture you are getting into the company and start expecting others to behave like that. It hurts really hard when a management team which acts like a sloth gets on your way and throws their two cents on every innovative idea of yours. So, try to switch only when you want to feel how being brain dead feels like.

Getting out of your comfort zones is one of the toughest jobs you can take up in your life. But, trust me its worth it. You might feel like pulling your hair when things get messier and you end up losing sanity. But a calm sea never made a good sailor. In order to sail from one place to another and to grow, we all need to quit the same old lake and start training ourselves in the art of sailing on turbulent seas. You will drown a few times, but in the end, hardships bring the best out of you.

Try switching jobs at least once in your life and see the changes for yourself. 

Wishing you good luck,

ARK

#116 – You Are The Average Of The Five People You Most Associate With.


The origin for writing this post dates back to several months from today. I was attending this Behavioral and Value Creation Sessions organized by our company and one of those sessions had this amazing facilitator who was giving speech on law of attraction. He started his session with the simple statement that even if we equally distributed all the wealth in this Universe , after few days the money would once again reach to the top billionaires in the world. He further went on to explain why successful people are always abundant. Be it in terms of health or wealth, they are always contended.

What I understood after the session was that

“You are the average of the five people you most associate with”

Even after reading the above quote from many online sources, we still choose to hang around with losers each time and end up becoming one. This doesn’t mean that you have to avoid all the unsuccessful people in this world and bask in the glory of only successful friends.

What I meant was

“You have to surround yourself with a positive circle of friends”.

Unfortunately, life doesn’t give the perfect set of people for us always. Life is fucking unpredictable. Anything can happen at any time. Any person can enter in your life anytime and make or break you. But what stays constant is the inner circle of friends/close-set of people whom you always hang around with, no matter what. This close-set of people should always be either people who push you towards success or people who desperately want you to fail. Because either of the categories will motivate you to work hard and make it big.

If you aspire to become a  good writer, then surround yourself with the best writers/publishing agents in the Industry.

If you aim to be a good basketball player, then hang around with the titans in the game.

If you want to invest more time on yourself, then stop looking fucking lost and start doing what your heart wants you to do.

It is very simple. Whatever  you want to achieve, surround yourself with like minded individuals. They will push you towards accomplishing mastery in that field.

Your boyfriend/girl friend may leave. Your boss may fire you up. Your spouse may just walk out of the relationship. What stays forever with you is this small inner circle which genuinely understands your positives and negatives. Never allow them to go away from you. And also if you don’t have the right set of people in your circle, its time to say bye and find your tribe.

Be careful to choose whom you vibe with. It is perfectly fine to be alone than in bad company. Life is too short to be around people who are genuinely not good enough for you.

Edmund Lee Quote

Writing Prompt Source for today’s article: Circle

#115 – There is no fucking “Coincidence” in life

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Source: Coincidence

Coincidence is God’s way of staying anonymous..

Many times we think that whatever is happening in our current lives are a result of some bad karma. But in reality there is nothing called as “Coincidence”. Everything happens for a reason. This involves including the breakup which you had last week, the job which you lost today or the fight which happened between you and your brother.

Nothing happens just like that. Everything happens for a reason. You might not know the reasons immediately but sooner or later you are going to thank the invisible force for making it happen. There is a connection why people arrive in your life when you least welcome them and people depart when you most want them. There is a connection as to why some situations happen in your favor and some against your will.

Earlier I used to get disturbed a lot. But now, I am used to the uncertainties of life. Because I have stopped drifting from one emotion to another. I have started accepting life the way it comes to me. Hard situations have taught me how to be grateful to each small happiness in my life. Happy situations have taught me how to enjoy and live in the moment. Each day is a new day and each lesson is a new lesson that you learn in this school of life.

My Yoga Guru once taught me ….

That the best way to lead your life the happy way is to trust the process and believe that nothing happens by coincidence. Everything has a reason beyond our comprehension.

This mantra gives me so much of positivity that, I seldom break down now. Episodes of crying hours together has now been replaced into episodes of laughter. I no longer brood over things which are beyond my control. Instead, I trust the process. It is not so easy to reach this state. It has taken me over a year and a half to let go of few things and being in unlimited positivity inside my mind and soul. But each effort taken towards that direction was worth it.

Hope this post has helped you in some way or the other. Do let me know your comments on the blog post.

Love,
ARK