Daily Prompt #98 – What No One Tells You About Loneliness

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When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?
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For the first time in my history of blogging Daily Prompts, the prompt and the state of my health are in perfect sync with each other.

Since morning, I am feeling nausea and restlessness. Thanks to the great weekend, full of surprises and lots of long night outs… I skipped my beauty sleep and enjoyed my life to the fullest. Sometimes, skipping sleep is okay when you have hundreds of exciting things waiting for you infront of your eyes.

Coming back to today’s prompt I have split the post in 2 parts

~Part 1~

When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone?

I would prefer to soldier on alone for 2 reasons

  1. Long back someone very dear to me once said “You would not have come back from that shit if it wasn’t for me” and that sentence really made me so strong that, I rarely give any person a chance to show that he/she is doing some charity for me.
  2. I always embraced SOLITUDE to such an extent that, when I am in need of help, the closest person who can help me is ME.

~Part 2~

What does it take for you to ask for help?

When I feel that I cannot take it anymore, I would phone my friends and ask for some help.

~Conclusion~

I am sure the above statements would clearly portray me as a very rude woman but I am okay with whatever people think of me. Because, they can be just spectator to my situation and cannot take the ownership of paying my bills tomorrow.

So, its okay to soldier on alone and go the extra mile… because at times, OUR FEARS ARE THE BIGGEST LIARS on this planet. The fear of breaking down actually makes you weak and convinces you that you really need someone. One tip for all those people out there ailing from any form of sickness… always remember “Its going to be hard but hard is not IMPOSSIBLE”

So…

Be alone, Eat alone, take care of yourself alone because in the midst of this loneliness, you will find your true self.

You will grow. You will find your inspiration. You will live your dreams.You will find your clarity. – Bianca Sparacino

For those of you who do not know who is Bianca, read below

Bianca Sparacino is a writer from Toronto, Ontario who aims to write honestly about the beauty that arises from the contrasts of life. From love, and loss, to joy and regret, she has dedicated herself to turning the human condition into poetry. When she’s not writing, Bianca enjoys a shameful amount of black coffee, dusty old vintage shops, and studying Neuroscience. Some of her biggest influencers are Anais Nin, Anna Karina, and Susan Sontag. She has a very good tumblr site where you can go and read her tumblr posts filled with self help material and lots of interesting motivational stuff.

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Apology accepted…


What do you do when someone apologises to you?

  1. Do you easily forgive and forget?
  2. Do you forgive and then never forget that?

I fall under the second category. I forgive people very easily but never forget what they have done to me.

Apologies can grant forgivance but they cannot take back the pain. After series of backstabbing and betrayals i have become very cold to all the apologies in my life. Because they never heal my pain. They only add lessons in my life and make me more alone.

The only reason why i feel that some apologies are incompetent because they are nothing but an array of the same age old letters like “stop being sad” “please dont go away” “i am sorry” which are pretty much same.

If you really want to apologise something to your dearest person … please stop begging for forgivance and start taking initiative to heal their pain. ACTIONS SPEAK BETTER THAN WORDS.

Give some warmth and love to your dear ones and try to listen to them instead of being very cold to them. Give them some more respect. Man does not need apologies when his trust has been broken. All he needs is some love and respect back again.

Stand by your friends when they need them and don’t abandon them. IF YOU DON’T STAND UP FOR SOMETHING YOU WILL FALL FOR EVERYTHING.

Give them some quality time instead of your mere sorrys and poems. Who needs your beautiful words when you have already defined your limitations of being a true friend.

When someone offers you a hand in help make sure that you also offer them a hand when they need you.

Try to read between the lines instead of assuming that your friend is OK.

Because no matter how close you are to your friend, how genuinely you apologise to someone ….

THERE’S ALWAYS MORE THAN WHAT MEETS THE EYE.

My sincere words who agree to my idealogy is “Stop welcoming everyone to your heart. If you welcome them make sure they are free to walk away by giving you loads of lessons and tons of pain”

EITHER WAYS YOU ARE THE ONE WHO WILL BENEFIT.