Why I Support Impulse_Formula & You Should Too

girl reading a book

Recently one of my close friends started an Instagram Account called impulse_formula. One might as well think what’s a big deal in that. With every cell phone provider giving you GB’s of data for free, creating an Instagram account should be a child’s play. We live in an era where there are mere 500+ followers for a genuine MX champion and 3.7m followers for a rescued Siamese/Tabby Mix  Nala Cat  [No offense to Cat Lovers though]

When I asked her what’s the big deal about this account, her response was “I want to help people realize that you can get through tough times with the help of quotes”. Well, I was touched by her statement because that’s what she did to me a few months back. I was actually going through a very tough time, dealing with some broken relationships around me and had started feeling that I was inadequate in life.

It was then I received a call from her accidentally and she lifted me up in few minutes. She had received this quote from her role model. I think that’s what strong people do. They give you space to feel your vulnerability and also make you feel that you are a diamond. They fill you with hope and inspire you to push your limits and come out of your darkness soon.

I would like to mention the quote that she sent to me that day:

quotes on strong women

Each word in the above quote made a lot of sense to me. They took me back to those days when I was in much worse situation and how some powerful quotes had managed to keep my life from getting capsized. One might even debate…. do we even need those fancy words to overcome depression and sadness. My answer is yes. Words are powerful. There are times in our lives, when everything seems like going downhill. Your career, your private life, office environment, your family, finances everything going unplanned. During those times, one does not need sympathy from the outside world. All that he/she needs is some ray of hope in some form. Affirmations and quotes serve the exact purpose.

While many of us might feel that most of these quotes are all cheesy and too much verbose, I can vouch for the fact that some quotes are truly magical. They just lift you up and provide a totally new dimension to your thought process.

They can make you feel that whatever you are going through is normal and there is no need to panic. They can be excellent stress-busters. Quotes at times even act as an excellent spiritual guide when you are dealing with toxic people around you.

Inspiring quotes can help you push your limits. Like this video by Trey Canard – one of my favorite MX champions!

Quotes can heal your scars and bring a fresh perspective inside you.

Quotes can remind you of the journey that you have endured so far in your life.

Quotes bring back a thousand memories that you had forgotten over these years.

Quotes bring patience and clarity to your thoughts.

So, yes I believe that quotes can truly create a difference in all our lives. I wish my friend impulse_formula good luck in her new initiative to bring about a change in hundreds of lives around her. I request all you readers to go ahead and follow her. DM her or tag her with a favorite quote of yours so that it will help her spread the message to hundreds of people who might benefit from your quotes.

Thank you for reading!

Hope you are having a lovely weekend ahead!

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#133 – AC Chalao Bhai!!!


Today as I was comfortably sitting inside the cab and watching the Kumbh Mela @ Bommanahalli Signal, the Uncle who was sitting next to me started ranting. I think ranting is pretty infectious. Very soon, the other Uncle who was sitting in the cab also started complaining about traffic, heat, dust, politics, roads phew…. the list went on and on and on…

Now trust me, this ranting was not something which happened then and there. These uncles had a problem with every damn thing in the cab. Sometimes its the AC not calibrated enough to give them Shimla like temperature and other times its the route Google Maatha was showing. Every two minutes, one was busy talking on the phone and the other constantly checking push notifications from various apps. This was the classic scene of “restlessness”. Why can’t people just chill and focus on the present moment?

Finally, when we crossed Bommanahalli signal, these Uncles were fighting who should have the first drop. It was then I took the headphones off my ears and closed my crime fiction book to cut the crap.

I gently leaned forward and told the driver, “Straight hogi sir, Nandu first drop” (Please go straight and drop me first). The cab driver diligently dropped me first, meanwhile the Uncles were giving me nasty stares.

#128 – What important lessons has life taught you?

top ten things life teaches you

The top ten lessons that life taught me and I had to learn the hard way are:

  1. Step-back and re-think when you feel things are not going as per your plan.
  2. Patience is the key to conquer anything. Never rush while taking an important life-changing decision.
  3. Breathe in and breathe out 5 times when you think of giving up. It helps you to regain your composure when everything seems lost.
  4. It’s futile to kill yourself or beat yourself up for anyone in this world. Be it your boss or boyfriend or girlfriend… none. You are more important than you think of yourself.
  5. If you don’t take charge of your dreams, someone else will come and hire you to work for their dreams.
  6. Always have one side-hustle. You never know when it will come to your rescue.
  7. Unfuck yourself regularly by distancing from negative people.
  8. You are the architect of your life. Nobody can babysit and shape it up for you.
  9. Stop living like the rest 99% of them. Raise the game and always aim 10 steps higher than you can climb.
  10. Follow your heart always.

What lessons did life teach you? Please comment below. Would love to read each of them.

#127 – 10 Best Moves That Changed My Life Forever


Here are the top 10 moves that I started adapting over the few years which changed my life for good.

  1. Never announce your moves before you make them. Keep it to yourself and journal it for your daily reference.
  2. Save for today.
  3. Plan for retirement in your early 25’s
  4. Decrease your dependency towards depreciating assets and plan your finances carefully.
  5. Always have emergency funds at your disposal. If you are wondering how much should I have in my emergency fund now, calculate it here.
  6. Distance yourself from people who no longer fuel your ambitions. Read how you can achieve it here.
  7. Take good care of your body by exercising daily. Your body will thank you later. These seven minute workouts are really going to help you begin the journey.
  8. Prioritize your life first. Declutter rest everything from your life. Don’t know where to start? Here are some simple and effective ways to begin with.
  9. Do not burn your opportunities for temporary indulgements in things which serve no purpose a year later. Always apply the 1-3-5 rule when in confusion.
  10. Start reading a book every day. It is always hard in the beginning but you will love reading once you start embracing it as your daily routine. ‘

What are the best moves in your life?

#120 – 20 Things I Learnt After Reading 2107 Pages

woman enjoying city view

Thanks to Goodreads Reading Challenges. Every year it helps me to break the monotony of life and set some time for my reading habit before crashing on the bed. As Anthony Moore on Medium once said “Consistency Beats Talent, Luck, Good Intentions, and Even Quality”. I am happy that my consistent efforts in reading atleast few pages each night before retiring to sleep has finally paid off.

Here is a list of 20 lessons I learnt from the books that I read during 2017 which equates to 2107 pages on a whole.

Imperfection is beautiful

Imperfection is beautiful: In life it is okay to not be perfect all the time. But always strive hard to become better version of you each day. Sometimes the excessive greed to be perfect can sabotage the chances of getting better and achieving better results in life. – Learnt from Leadership and Self Deception by The Arbinger Institute.

Creativity never runs out

Creativity never runs out: Lot of people just try to hide the knowledge that they know and think that sharing is not so cool. If you are one amongst them, let me tell you something. YOU GOT THIS THEORY WRONG DUDE. Creativity is something which never runs out. Creativity is abundant in this Universe. The elixir to have an abundance of creativity inside you is simple “You got to dream a lot”. That’s it. – Learnt from Things a Little Bird Told Me – Confessions of the Creative Mind by Biz Stone

Asking questions is freeAsking questions is free. Getting a lot of NO’s in life also is free:  So when in doubt, do not hesitate to just ask that question and get your clarity. At the same time, getting a flat NO is also free in life. Be prepared for rejections and do not get disappointed when someone says NO. Just keep trying hard towards your goals in life. – Learnt from Things a Little Bird Told Me – Confessions of the Creative Mind by Biz Stone

Hustle HarderHustle Harder:  The road to success does not have any esclataors. Be prepared to have zero social life or zero weekends at times, when you want to achieve that big thing in life. Some sacrifices are worth it. – Learnt from How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life by Lilly Singh.

Say no to Piggy Back ridesSay no to Piggy Back rides: Piggy back rides are cute in pictures but not in real life. It’s important to know the difference between supporting people and giving them a free ride. Many times in life, once you achieve your goals, there are lot of people who love to latch onto your back and try to extract some benefits from you. You should be aware of how to stop being used like a doormat by such characters. – Learnt from How to Be a Bawse: A Guide to Conquering Life by Lilly Singh.

we all have a dark sideWe all have a dark side: “The truly frightening flaw in humanity is our capacity for cruelty – we all have it.” Everyone of us have a dark side inside of us. It’s just that sometimes it comes out in its true form and other times it is just hiding beneath a neat layer of “i am just being nice bro”. To understand our inner demons is important in order to not fall into the trap of dark circumstances in life. – Learnt from Dark Places by Gillian Flynn

Chase your dreams and fight for it: Hardships often teach us the value of relationships and true meaning of success. Nothing comes easy in life. It all comes in the form of bruises, sweat and hardwork. Sometimes you have to be the David who took on the Goliath’s in the boxing ring and win most of the time – Learnt from Unbreakable: an Autobiography by M C Mary Kom

“The purpose of a pitch is to stimulate interest, not to close a deal.” : One of the most important things that you need to keep in mind, when you are creating a PowerPoint slide to pitch your solution is the 10/20/30 rule. i.e Your presentation should have 10 slides, it should not last more than 20 minutes and contain no font smaller than 30 points. If you are wondering how do I do that? Then here is the article which you need to read. – Learnt from The Art of the Start: The Time-Tested, Battle-Hardened Guide for Anyone Starting Anything by Guy Kawasaki

Reward people for stopping something: “We spend a lot of time teaching leaders what to do. We don’t spend enough time teaching leaders what to stop. Half the leaders in real life, don’t need to learn what to do. They need to learn what to stop”.

Say “Thank You first”: Whenever someone compliments, just shut the fuck up and say “Thank You” then followed by your other explanations. Many a times, the person who has complimented you would be baffled to hear anything other  than a simple thank you. – Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Not all suggestions are worth implementing: Whenever someone suggests you anything, keep calm and say “Thank You”. You don’t … I repeat… You don’t have to act on every advice that is thrown at you. –  Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Seek honest feedbacks from people near you: If you want to find your blind spot in career, walk upto people who work with you and ask “What is that one thing that I need to change in myself in order to become a better ________”. You would be amazed at the honest response that follows after you shoot this question. Ask me why? People love giving advice and suggestions all the time. And also, people love the fact that you are trying to improve. – Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Follow up is not just for call-centres : Follow the simple rule of “Ask – Listen – Think – Thank – Respond – Change – Follow Up” in life.  Follow up is a very important ingredient in life. You cannot stop once you have made a significant change in your behavior. You need to consistently ask and take feedback so that you can improve it. This simple cycle transforms your professional career by 2X. – Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Do not cut people when they are trying to give you suggestions: Just listen quietly and thank them. Cutting people when they are trying to convey something, makes you come across like an arrogant asshole. So the next time someone suggests you or brings up a new idea at your desk, stop using the words “NO”, “But” , “However”.Instead try to listen and observe. – Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Harness the power of an apology: Apologize, if at all you find yourself crossing your limits and hurting someone. Apologising helps you to navigate seamlessly across all genres of people and makes you less prone to non-cooperation movements in any organization – Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Always be patient and listen. Mute the surroundings near you and make the person infront of you feel as if he is the only person existing on this planet. Respect people when they are saying something and listen to them intently. Never cut people saying “I knew that” – Learnt from What Got You Here Won’t Get You There: How Successful People Become Even More Successful by Marshall Goldsmith

Sometimes it’s the one thing that you need to change right now: You might think that there are ten things I have to improve in myself, How do I do that? and get mindfucked. But, the reality is, sometimes when you attempt to tackle one problem at a time, you would resolve four other problems simultaneously without even knowing.

  • Take this example: Your wife may be complaining that you never listen to her. But you know that this is not the only thing that bothers her. She has problems with your smoking, drinking, missing important things and hundred other issues. Instead of tackling all at once. How about you focus on the importance of being a better listener.
  • You go home and quietly listen to all her words (It’s hard but trust me you need to be patient). After she is done you sit back and think – thank – act on the things that made her mad – go and ask her “Is there anything else that I can do to improve _________”.
  • Once you are done addressing her issue, go and look at your own self.
  • You might have become not just a better listener but a better husband as well. You would have not missed that important grocery list which she had asked you to shop this morning. You would have not missed picking up your kid from the school. You would have been even more prompt in managing your office timings.
  • Did it not resolve your time management issues, your unorganized way of living and also made you a responsible parent ?
  • Always remember that if you want to change anything about yourself, the best time to start is now. Ask yourself, “What am I willing to change now?” Just do that. That’s more than enough. For now.”

You are who you think you are: Our self image, strongly held, essentially determines what we become.  So the next time, you go out and say something rude to someone, always remember how much your words can alter their self image. Girls who think they are ugly all the time are nothing but a  by product of the inferiority complex that is bred into them during their schooling. Guys who always think they are superior than others, and treat others with disrespect and bully/insult them are nothing but a reflection of their own insecurities that the other person is better than them. Our self image and habits tend to go together. Change one and you will automatically change the other – Learnt from Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life by Maxwell Maltz

You are who you are today because of your surroundings and situations: Never do something which will totally alter the self image of a kid forever. The below infographic clearly describes how an environment can affect and alter a kid’s nature forever – Learnt from Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life by Maxwell Maltza0pzE7Z_460s_v2.jpg

See – Learn – Embrace the learning – Move ForwardAdmit your mistakes but do not dwell on them forever. Resenting on past mistakes will create a neuro-pattern in your brain that you will be a loser forever. Whereas remembering the past successes and rejoicing those moments can make your brain stay more positive and calm during crisis situations. – Learnt from Psycho-Cybernetics, A New Way to Get More Living Out of Life by Maxwell Maltz

Okay, that’s all folks. I hope I get to learn few more things this year from the books I read. Stay Happy. Stay Humble. And do not forget to love yourself.

Love,

ARK.