Daily Prompt #98 – What No One Tells You About Loneliness

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When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?
Source: Take Care

For the first time in my history of blogging Daily Prompts, the prompt and the state of my health are in perfect sync with each other.

Since morning, I am feeling nausea and restlessness. Thanks to the great weekend, full of surprises and lots of long night outs… I skipped my beauty sleep and enjoyed my life to the fullest. Sometimes, skipping sleep is okay when you have hundreds of exciting things waiting for you infront of your eyes.

Coming back to today’s prompt I have split the post in 2 parts

~Part 1~

When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone?

I would prefer to soldier on alone for 2 reasons

  1. Long back someone very dear to me once said “You would not have come back from that shit if it wasn’t for me” and that sentence really made me so strong that, I rarely give any person a chance to show that he/she is doing some charity for me.
  2. I always embraced SOLITUDE to such an extent that, when I am in need of help, the closest person who can help me is ME.

~Part 2~

What does it take for you to ask for help?

When I feel that I cannot take it anymore, I would phone my friends and ask for some help.

~Conclusion~

I am sure the above statements would clearly portray me as a very rude woman but I am okay with whatever people think of me. Because, they can be just spectator to my situation and cannot take the ownership of paying my bills tomorrow.

So, its okay to soldier on alone and go the extra mile… because at times, OUR FEARS ARE THE BIGGEST LIARS on this planet. The fear of breaking down actually makes you weak and convinces you that you really need someone. One tip for all those people out there ailing from any form of sickness… always remember “Its going to be hard but hard is not IMPOSSIBLE”

So…

Be alone, Eat alone, take care of yourself alone because in the midst of this loneliness, you will find your true self.

You will grow. You will find your inspiration. You will live your dreams.You will find your clarity. – Bianca Sparacino

For those of you who do not know who is Bianca, read below

Bianca Sparacino is a writer from Toronto, Ontario who aims to write honestly about the beauty that arises from the contrasts of life. From love, and loss, to joy and regret, she has dedicated herself to turning the human condition into poetry. When she’s not writing, Bianca enjoys a shameful amount of black coffee, dusty old vintage shops, and studying Neuroscience. Some of her biggest influencers are Anais Nin, Anna Karina, and Susan Sontag. She has a very good tumblr site where you can go and read her tumblr posts filled with self help material and lots of interesting motivational stuff.

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365 Days Writing Prompts #2 – The Rescue


Tell us about the time you rescued someone else (person or animal) from a dangerous situation. What happened? How did you prevail?

Instead of narrating an incident where I could have rescued someone, I would like to write something on how can you rescue someone.

Yes, you read it right. You might be wondering how can you rescue someone. Around 800,000 people commit suicide worldwide every year and of these 135,000 are from India, which accounts for around 17% of the total suicide deaths in the world when you calculate. And the numbers are rising significantly every year. Tamil Nadu, Maharashtra and West Bengal have been identified as the cities where most suicides happen. Tamil Nadu has the highest suicide rates as compared to other states.

If you consider the male: female ratio in this matter, you would find that we rank at 6th position in Female Suicide Statistics and we stand at 22nd in Male Suicide Statistics

This is just in India, but if you see the larger picture you would be surprised to see that, one person dies by suicide every 40 seconds in some part of our World. And the global  suicide rates have increased 60% in the past 45 years.

If you wiki Suicide, it provides you a long list of common causes for SUICIDE like the following

  1. Bankruptcy
  2. Mental Disorders
  3. Substance Use
  4. Problem Gambling
  5. Medical Conditions
  6. Media so on and so forth

But the Suicide.org actually sums it down into one single REASON. That is UNTREATED DEPRESSION. Depression can be one of the major reasons for the increase in suicides around us.

Depression when treated can heal a person completely and never make him course his journey towards Suicide. But on the other hand, when people do not take proper treatments they drift away from all the so-called Helplines, Crisis Help Centers, Family, Friends, Loved ones and all and isolate themselves only to kill their own life, which is quite painful. It is nothing but tragedy.

Suicide.org states, over 90% of people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death. And the most common illness is DEPRESSION. Negative experiences in life cause few people to sink into depression. Losing jobs, Loss of loved ones, Serious trauma, or some tragic incident in one’s life could be the common reasons for people who become depressed.

90% of the times, it goes untreated because people do not share their pain with others. And there is this solid theory in their minds, that NOBODY UNDERSTANDS ME. The stigma associated with Suicide makes them feel that if they reach out for help people may think they are vulnerable. But very often people forget that, even strong people too succumb to self killings.

Famous examples of people who were successful in their lives but still killed themselves are : Adolf Hitler, Cleopatra,  Kurt Cobain, Ernest Hemingway, Vincent Van Gogh, Robin Williams and the list goes on.

So when a person approaches for help, do not shun them away. Because anyone can be VULNERABLE. Instead here’s how you can help them:

The below list has been extracted from the WHO report on “Preventing Suicide – A global imperative” I hope these facts will help you save some lives.

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Always remember that people who want to end themselves often intend think killing themselves will kill their pain and put an end to it. Seldom do they know that killing oneself is not a solution for any problem. Remind them that there is still hope for the hopeless in this world. All you have to do is reach out. Reach out to your close friends and come out of the emotional black hole all by yourself.

In order to rescue someone, all you need is your presence. Many times, due to lack of guidance, people think suicide is #1 option. But, your presence can make your friend lead a good life than allowing him to commit suicide. Watch out for those signs, do not allow them to be in isolation for a long time, and also stop allowing them to reside in dark places. Be their light, be their helping hand.

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Because Suicides are preventable. You can be a super hero for someone who has gone astray from the path of life. All it takes is a helping hand.

Daily Prompt #94 : Life Line

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You’re on a long flight, and a palm reader sitting next to you insists she reads your palm. You hesitate, but agree. What does she tell you?

Source: Life Line

First of all I have never been on a long flight.

Secondly, I once bumped into a palm reader during one of my trips back from Bangalore to Mangalore in a train. The Palm reader saw my hand, and wrote some mysterious symbols on a piece of paper (which I still treasure it in my home town) and left off.

One of the prominent symbols which he wrote was a compass. And I pretty much relate myself to the needle in the compass. My life keeps steering relentlessly towards destinations led by my heart. My moods are also in perfect alignment with the course of journey I wish to take in my life. Sometimes I get lost due to terrible mood swings but just like the compass needle, I set my steering wheel of life back to track. It is with the same attitude, I could take on the turbulent voyages of my life with ease since my goal was always constant “To do what my heart feels right”

Thanks to my close friends, who are always beside me to help me with my mood swing issues. But honestly, I do not believe in palmistry/astrology. My mother is a huge believer of superstitions and over the years her affinity towards these illogical things have grown vastly. There have been instances where certain fortune teller said something and it turned out to be a huge flop show after few months.

Recently, she called me over the phone to report how one astrologer fooled her. Late realization mama !!!! So instead of believing in all these you have to do this…

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What did your palm reader say about your life? Did it make sense? Do let me know your comments on the same.

Daily Prompt # 80:Journey to the centre of my soul

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In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Journey.”

I was sitting on the terrace one cold night and was watching the cloudy sky…..

When my mind as usual took me to a journey towards center of my heart….

When I was almost done with all the analysis of my emotions, I realized it had started raining.

That was when I remembered this song.

I had listened to this song over a year back, but the tune is still so refreshing.

The journey to the center of my heart taught me one thing

My life is not about happy moments. Its about the story. A story full of hopes and numerous setbacks which has made me the person who I am today. It is a story with a meaningful ending and I get to decide what meaning I ought to give it.