Self-help books are great. They help us find the center of our Universe and enlighten us on the most important priorities of life. But, what if your whole reading list contains only self-help books?
Well, this was me a year back.
Picking up every damn book from the bookstore written by Robin Sharma, Wayne Dyer, Norman Vincent Lewis etc.
In the end, I realized, I needed a break from all these books to figure out what works the best for me (not some big guy selling too much philosophy in each book).
So why did I do this to myself?
What made this transition happen?
Just a 30-days Reading Challenge from different genre helped me realize that self-help books are great just once in a while. Theories like “Wake up at 5 am and be like a robot, make time sheets, track your food intake” sounds sweet on paper, but how about practicing at least 1% of those rituals in actual reality?
In the self-help genre after reading 10 books from the same author, you literally start beating yourself up in order to keep up with the “ideal life” mentioned in the book. Life is imperfect. And life is best enjoyed with all the imperfections around us. The more you beat yourself up, the more screwed up it becomes.
On the contrary, if you just let it go and try to figure out the recipe that works best for you, you will eventually win. Like no matter who says wake up at 5, what if, your office hours and your routine demand you to take rest till 8 am and be up until late night 12:00 am.
Similarly, someone may say, travel every weekend and get lost in the woods. But what if you are an introvert who enjoys more time in the reading room than roaming outside?
The best option in all these cases is to give yourself a break from all the ideal life philosophies and figure out what works best for you. Understand what interests you the most, what works the best for your life and plan your life accordingly. This not only lowers your stress but also helps you understand that there is no point in being so hard on yourself.
Allow all the noise inside your head to settle down. Take a deep breath and keep that goddamn self-help book back in the shelf. Be yourself first rest everything will fall in place.